5 Ways to Kill Negative Self Talk
Your inner critic will kill your motivation, negative self talk stops you achieving goals and an internal warning voice will stop your success.
Have you ever want to achieve something, and as you make your first step towards this goal your own negative self talk stops you in your tracks?
Having an internal warning system is a positive thing, designed to help you not to jump into something that could be risky. The problem is, is that most people leave the inner voice on, playing the warning system over and over again, stopping you trying anything new.
Use your negative self talk to check the risk level of the current situation, once happy with the level of risk, turn the inner critic off using one of these 5 way to kill your negative self talk.
Kill Negative Self Talk 1. Step Away From The Voice
Often when you hear your own negative self talk, this warning system will create a visual representation of the negative perspective of the situation.
You will see this image or movie from your own eyes which creates strong associated negative emotions. If you visualize a negative situation you will feel negative. The associated emotions are so strong that you will act automatically, without thinking logical
When this happens you need to step back and look at the situation from a dis-associated position
- When you feel automatically associated to a visualization brought on from negative self talk. Pause this movie
- Step out of your own body and float backwards so you can see the scene from an audiences perspective
- Imagine putting a wall with a window up between you and the situation you are now observing
- Play the situation and watch from this dis-associated position and decide the best course of action for you to take
Kill Negative Self Talk 2. Move the Shape, Move the Voice
The negative self talk has a powerful effect on you. By changing the power of this inner talk, you can take back control.
- Turn the voice into a shape
- Move the shape from your mind to your shoulder – imagine you can see this happening
- Move the shape from your shoulder down your arm, to your hand
- From your hand to your leg and down your leg to your foot
- Let the shape drop off your put onto the floor
- Notice what you want to do with the shape (some want to kick it away, stamp on it, etc)
- Finally check how you feel – for most the negative association to the voice has vanished
This video (below) will show you an example of the technique above
Kill Negative Self Talk 3. What Can I Do Now?
Often the inner voice will have a focus on a future situation or goal “you wont be able to do that!”
To regain the power, you need to come back to the present. Once you notice that the negative self talk has took control of you, count back from 3-1 and say “What do I need to do NOW to achieve my goal?”
This logical question will help you act logically in the here and now. You will start to became more aware of how your internal and external resources can help you achieve your goals.
Kill Negative Self Talk 4. Tame the Tonality
The tone, tempo and pitch of the negative self talk is what gives the inner voice its power. If you change any of these 3 key elements you will change the emotional association to the voice.
- Slow down the tempo – say each word of the critic down and drag out each word
- Make your voice quieter and quieter until the voice is a whisper
- Change the voice into the voice of your favorite (and funniest) cartoon character
- Pitch – re-say the critics words using a very deep or low voice
- Repeat the sentence while laughing and giggling between each word
Kill Negative Self Talk 5. Ask The Inner Voice an Inquisitive Question
The negative self talk is one way your subconscious mind keeps you safe. If you unconsciously feel fearful about a situation ( a situation that is dangerous ) you are less likely to attempt the goal/task.
But you need to way up your unconscious minds concerns against your logical brains evidence. This way YOU have the power, the choice the final decision.
As you hear the inner critic, ask “what is the positive intent in asking this question/saying this statement?”
As you are offered an answer, ask the same question for each answer (do this 3 times)
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