The 3 Steps Richard Bandlers Uses For Change Work
Bandler uses a multi-approach to create change with clienst. Embedded into all his work are 3 key steps.
Richard Bandler is the co-founder of NLP ( Neuro-Linguistic Programming ) and is famed for creating a methodology to understand and change human behavior-patterns; getting rid of phobias, modelling success and boosting confidence and self esteem
Richard Bandlers 3 Steps for Change – Step 1 Clients Have To Be Sick of Their Problem and Need to Desire Change
Clients have a problem/issue for, often years, before they approach a therapist for support. They have learnt to live with their issue and often perceive the pain of overcoming or not having their problem (or the secondary gain from this issue) as less painful then the problem its self.
On that particular day, week or month, the pain associated with this issue increases and the client wants to make a change.
To increase motivation for the change you need to increase the associated pain for the clients problem. Paerticulr questions can be designed to increase the associated pain to the clients problem, creating the motivation to “get away” from the pain. Ask
- “What pain is this issue causing you?”
- “Has it increased recently?”
- “How often do you think about this?”
- “What will happen if you don’t make a change today?”
- “Make an image/movie of this problem – how do you feel?”
- “What is the worst thing about having this problem?”
Richard Bandlers 3 Steps for Change – Step 2 Clients Need to Change The Perspective of Their Problem
Your perspective of a situation determines your associated emotional response.
Change the perspective, change the attached emotion. Clients will often get stuck in one mode of thinking which creates part of their belief system. To create fast therapy you need to give clients more then one perspective, you need to offer choice and by challenging generalizations you can create positive change.
NLP Techniques that work well for stage 2 include:
Richard Bandlers 3 Steps for Change – Step 3 Clients Need a New Positive Option to Choose
If People have a choice they will make the best one.
Once you build up motivation for change through the motivation of pain and after you support the client to look at a situation from a new perspective, you will find that many clients are ready to make a change.
Clients will often keep their issue as they feel they have no choices.
You cant just get rid of an old limiting thought, you need to offer a new option. This way a client can choose how they want to feel, react and the perspective they want to view the situation from.
- If a client spends 3 hours a day thinking about the problem, ask them what they will do with all this new free time?
- Future pace and check how the client perceives a future situation/their options
- Create new positive anchors, beliefs and values – give the client the resources they need to handle old situations in new ways. As Bandler says “The best thing about the past is that it’s over. The best thing about the future is that it’s yet to come. The best thing about the present is that it’s here now.”
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