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3 Fears That Will Stop Achieving Your New Years Resolution in 2017

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 3 Fears That Will Stop Achieving Your New Years Resolution in 2017

 

 

12 months ago you set your new years resolutions…..how many of these feel by the way side?

 

Why is it that, with all good intentions, you set but fail to achieve your new years resolutions? Can this year be different? Can you overcome your fears and live a fulfilled 2017?

 

These are the 3 most common fears that stop people achieving (or even working towards) their new year resolutions.

 

 

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Fear 1

 

Failing!

 

We hate to be seen by others as a failure, a loser, someone who cant succeed.

 

This first fear is so powerful that we don’t even need others to know if we are being successful or a failure, the thought alone is enough to stop you trying to be successful

 

Successful people don’t have this fear. Instead they focus on learning from their mistakes, the failures they will surely have. The truth is when you set a new goal, when you try something new, you will get it wrong, you will fail. If your perspective in this situation is a learning opportunity, rather the thought of “what will everyone think?” you overcome your fear and achieve your new years resolution

 

 

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Fear 2

 

 

Making a change

 

Humans are habitual creatures. We hate change.

 

It is easy over the Christmas period to think out out the box and to see new goals that are out of your natural  comfort zone. When January comes, the fear of trying something new overtakes the excitement of achieving your objective

 

Instead of taking a big leap, take smaller steps. Imagine your goal is to free-climb a massive cliff. Rather then get scared of the reality of this new years resolution, set a smaller goal – to get indoor climbing lessons.

 

This same principle can be used for personal goals. Say, you want to drop from a size 18 to a size 12. This initial goal seems unrealistic. Instead set a smaller goal, to eat vegetables instead of chips with your meal.

 

Small goals create momentum and momentum creates motivation

 

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Fear 3

 

Focus

 

What you focus on your feel

 

Most people set negative new years resolutions “to stop smoking” by setting a “stop X” goal you are keeping your conscious mind focused on the problem. Take someone who wants to be more healthy, they focus on “I’m fat and overweight” this thought makes them feel bad. This bad feeling makes them upset, what do you do when you are upset…treat yourself to a takeaway!

 

Instead set all your new year resolutions in the positive “I will eat more healthy” “I will be a none smoker” “I will lose 3 pounds” Imagining yourself in the outcome from your goal increase commitment

 

 

Good luck achieving all your new year resolutions in 2017

 

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10 Simple Ways to Overcome Your Phobia

10 Simple Ways to Overcome Your Phobia

 

 

Phobias limit your life.

 

People wrongly believe a phobia is for life. But the opposite is true, as a phobia can be overcome easily. Here are 10 simple ways to over the phobia that is limiting your life

 

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When a phobic thinks of the stimulus that creates their fear, their phobic reaction, the phobic will see the stimulus as a movie in their minds eye. This image is powerful because the phobic see’s the image from their own eyes. This associated perspective tricks the mind into believing that it is seeing the stimulus for real, creating anxiety and fear.

 

By training the mind to distort this image you wil change the automated reaction to the stimulus.

 

 

Move the Movie Away – ask anyone with a real fear, how they know they have a fear? They will also say that they just know that even the thought of the fear (spiders as an example) will make them terrified. When people think about their fear they have to visualise it in their minds, the picture is often big, bright and colourful. When phobic will see the fear from their own eyes in their minds visualisation (they won’t picture themselves looking at a spider – they will see the spider from their own eyes) now here’s the good bit, get your phobic picture and move it away, so you can see yourself in the phobic situation. More the image further and further away from your mind’s eye, until it’s the size of a post card, then a stamp and then until it’s a dot on the horizon. When you do this how do you feel now? Less anxious?

 

Pause the Horror Movie – for people with real phobias there picture will be more like a movie, not only will they see the phobia from their own eyes they will actually relive the whole experience as if they are there again. In this case what you need to do, as you move the giant picture away from your minds eye, is, once the picture has been shrunk down so you can see the sides of the image (ie it’s not right in front of you) you need to bring out your magic remote control and pause the movie, with the moving image paused so anxiety will be much less.

 

Fade the Colour – with both the stilled image or movie of your phobia, most phobic’s will say they are move freighted when the image is in colour. As you are moving the image away from your minds eye, let the colour drain from the picture so the image becomes black and white. This is a very easy and effective technique to reduce your phobic response.

 

 

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Play The Benny Hill Theme Tune – keeping using the 4 techniques above over and over again, the more you use them the less intense your phobic reaction will be to the same image. On your 4th or 5th reply of this movie that you will pause, turn black and white and move away from your mind making it smaller and smaller, add the upbeat Benny hill theme tune. For me even thinking about this music makes me smile, as you play when you’re thinking about your phobia you can’t help but laugh, can you? now the brain is starting to associate laughter to your phobia rather the fear or anxiety.

 

Add Mickey Mouse to Your Movie. as you movie the image away from your mind eyes, so you can see yourself in the image, turn the people including yourself into cartoon characters, you can use Mickey mouse or just exaggerate your features so you become more of a caricature of yourself. At this point with the cartoon version of you and the Benny hill theme music, you will be laughing your cartoon socks off.

 

Rewind the Video – once you have messed around with the submodalities of your internal image, you will find it hard to remember your old phobic response, won’t you? now imagine you were in a cinema, and see on the screen in front of you the you before your old phobic response (this is a safe place before you were phobic)  step out of your body and float back to the project booth, so you can watch yourself watching a movie of you when you were phobic. Press play and watch the you watching the movie. at the end of the movie (again when you are in a safe place after the phobic incident) float backdown, pass over yourself and step into the screen so you can see the world from the eyes of the you in the movie. this time rewind the film really fast (1-5 seconds) and see the phobic incident going in reverse, hear people speak backwards and see people walk backwards – but do this very quickly. At the beginning of the movie, pause it and float back into your seat. Try and play the old movie, is it getting harder to see?

 

A Place in Nature – with the phobia nearly gone, I want you to think about somewhere relaxing like a beach or a place in nature. Imagine you are there now, see what you can see, hear what you can hear and start to relax. Start to feel so very relax; notice how relaxed you are feeling in this wonderful relaxing place. Take these feelings and walk towards a bridge, as you cross the bring these feelings of relaxation with you as you walk towards your phobia (a spider etc) notice how nice it feels to feel relaxed when you’re in this now nice and controlled situation, you might even start to feel proud of yourself as you feel relaxed in this situation.

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Negative List – write down a massive list, of everything your phobia is stopping you doing. Don’t just record the obvious (fear of flights – can’t go aboard) record how this is effecting your life, your relationship, your health, etc. Take each list item in turn and play a movie of this event how you hate being stuck in the UK when friends and family are going on holiday, how you always argue with your partner who wants a sunny summer holiday not a UK rainy weekend in Blackpool. You will only change once you are sick of feeling this way. So start your list now.

Picture you at Your Best – imagine you have gotten over your phobia, how will this change your life for the best? What will you being doing? Where are you? how do you feel? what do others say to you? What changes have you and other noticed? Really think about all the positive things that will happen, and feel that desire now to start to want to change, which means you need to start using these 10 techniques.

 

Practice, practice and practice – as with any skill you need to practice these techniques. Each night go through these steps until your phobia has vanished forever and start to enjoy your new life, enjoy how in control you feel and enjoy how much you are starting to enjoy life to its fullest.

 

 

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Rat Phobia Cure: Cook and Eat Rat

Rat Phobia Cure: Cook and Eat Rat

A recent post on Dr Hurds website answers a viewers question on overcoming phobias.

To overcome his fear of rats G. Gordon Liddy said he  cooked a rat before  eating it. Facing up to your phobia does not guarantee you will overcome it, which is why someone wanting to overcome a phobia of clowns cant always approach a man in a clown costume, the phobia pain kicks in and they in some cases run away.

Dr Hurd explains where phobics go wrong,  they say, “I will tell myself what’s irrational or mistaken about the fear.” Phobics are the first to admit their phobia is irrational but this isn’t enough to cure the phobia. The key for phobics isn’t to set negative goals “my goal is to get rid of the phobia”, Dr Hurd advises to connect the goal to something useful, worthwhile and valuable about your life. How will you benefit from overcoming your phobia? What pleasure will you receive? How will overcoming your phobia affect you positively in your life, in your career, in your relationships?

Some phobias can be very specific. One phobic of heights, could stand on a skyscraper and even take flights abroad, but couldn’t cross a local bridge. Their belief  was they had a phobia of heights, but in reality they had a phobia of a certain bridge, as it hard to have a phobia of heights and easily take a plane ride. If you can take a plane ride and your anxious about flying, you can use this same strategy to overcome your fear of bridges. Chunking down likes this opens up the possibility that you can overcome your phobia.

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