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5 Minute Coaching How A Champion Kickboxer Beats Anxiety

5 Minute Coaching How A Champion Kickboxer Beats Anxiety

 

 

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Hazel Gale is a cognitive hypnotherapist specialising in sports hypnosis and performance enhancement. Hazel got into hypnotherapy after using it to achieve multiple World, European and national titles in kickboxing and Boxing.

As well as seeing clients in the therapy context, Hazel also train people in boxing and kickboxing at Paragon Gym in London and teaches Sports Hypnosis CPD at the Institute of Clinical Hypnotherapy in London

Today’s session is explained in full on this article 

 

 

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A Breakdown of the Technique 

The technique that allowed me to relax and access my motor skills last week is called Spinning. It’s an NLP technique which uses equivalence to enable a person to quickly change the way they are feeling.

When I began feeling nervous in that dingy Peckham pub, I conducted the following inner dialogue. These questions are designed to elicit a visual representation of something that is felt:

 

Q: “If I could point to the position in my body where I feel the anxiety, where would I point?”

A: “My chest”

Q: “If that feeling had a shape, what shape would it be?”

A: “A rectangle”

Q: “If it had a colour, what colour would it be?”

A: “Green”

Q: “And if it was rotating, which way would it be turning?”

A: “Counterclockwise”

 

  1. Visualize the spinning feeling
  2. Spin the feeling in the opposite direction
  3. Test the spinning feeling; spin it slower or faster – to see which feeling feels best

 

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Contact Hazel

 

Website: http://www.hazelgale.co.uk/
Medium articles: https://medium.com/@HazelGale
Twitter:@HGHypnotherapy
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/hazelgalehypno/videos

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques”

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Did You Know That Charles Dickens Was The First To Use NLP?

Did You Know That Charles Dickens Was The First To Use NLP?

 

One of my favourite Christmas stories is Charles Dickens “A Christmas Carol.” With only a week to go to Christmas, the Christmas Carol story has been shown in various formats on television. After watching my forth version of the Christmas Carol this week, I realised how Scrooge makes life changing decisions through NLP.

 

Creating Christmas Change

One of the opening scenes shows Ebenezer Scrooge heading home from work as usual, Dickens uses a Visual Pattern Interrupt  in the form of Ebenezers  dead co-workers face appearing in place of the door knocker on scrooges house, to break Scrooges pattern. This alone doesn’t change Scrooges hardwired behaviour, but is the first step in the change process.

The pattern interrupt changes Scrooges usual behaviour, and scrooge is forced to light a candle to check the house. Scrooges doesn’t like to spend money, but will do when he feels compelled to, in this case he checks for danger by walking around the darkened house with a lit candle. This re-frame “I won’t waste expensive candles by burning them” changes to “I will use candles if I need to” starts chipping away at Scrooges limiting beliefs.

The ghost of Jacob Marley covered in chains haunts Scrooge and warns him of the forthcoming ghostly visitors. Marley cleverly uses several metaphors with scrooge  describing the chains that are wrapped around him as “..long, and wound about him like a tail; made of cash-boxes, keys, padlocks, ledgersdeeds, and heavy purses wrought in steel.” The ghost goes on to explain that “these are  the chain he unknowingly forged himself in life, as a result of his greed and selfishness.”

Scrooge is still sceptic at this stage, doubting his own senses, looking for evidence to back up his belief, he tells the ghost “…a little thing affects them. A slight disorder of the stomach makes them cheat. You may be an undigested bit of beef, a blot of mustard, a crumb of cheese, a fragment of an underdone potato. There’s more of gravy than of grave about you, whatever you are!” but Jacob who was much like Scrooge in life, is using his own experience as a metaphor for Ebenezer to see his own life from a new perspective.

Re-living Past Experiences

The first ghost arrives as the bell strikes one. The ghost of Christmas past takes Scrooge back down his timeline, to relive his past experiences, successes and loves, stacking various anchors along the way. We see Scrooge watch himself through his school years in the third perceptual position, lonely but with the potential for happiness, to becoming a young man in his first apprentice where the first traces of greed (hierarchies of criteria and  values) start to show, when he informs his friendly boss of the cost of the Christmas party.

Scrooge is shown the first meeting of the love of his life, Belle, which later ends badly as Ebenezer lets her go, as he is to tight to spend his hard earned money on the wedding, even though he is now a partner in his own firm. Wanting to Change his Own Personal History, the present day Scrooge shouts at his past self not to let Belle go – his own experience changes his values and criteria.

Consciously or unconsciously the ghost of Christmas past anchors these strong emotions when he pats Scrooge on the shoulder.

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Perceptible Position

Scrooge is awakened again as the bells strike two. A giant with a life span of just one day, tells scrooge how he is the ghost of Christmas Present.

Scrooge is shown several current scenes of Christmas joy and charity, and is then taken to the happy Cratchit household, where he sees his employee Bob Cratchit spending Christmas with his poor family, including his ill son Tiny Tim. This scene changeling Scrooges limiting beliefs that you need to be rich to enjoy life.

Tiny Tim is full of joy even though he is likely to die at a very young age, especially as Bob on his meagre wage can barley support the family. Scrooge is also surprised when Bob toast Scrooge as “the founder of the feast” showings Scrooge how behaviours arise from states.

As the ghost takes scrooge away to a new household, Ebenezer can’t take his eyes from tiny Tim’s weak and fragile body. Scrooge ask if Tiny Tim will die, he is reminded of his own unkind remark that poor people should die and “reduce the surplus population” this clever use of “clean language” challenges scrooges view of the world.

Scrooge arrives at his nephews Fred’s house, who he only just realises looks a lot like his dead sister – he is starting to see things different by this stage. The ghost cleverly uses perceptible positions to get Scrooge to see himself from a new perceptive, in the form of them watching Fred play a game to find the identity of a horrid thing, in which questions can be answered only with Yes and No. Everyone is amused when Fred’s wife guesses that the mystery object is Scrooge. Fred explains that Scrooge is to be pitied, not despised. “He is rich but his money does him no good (model of the word SOM), and his offences carry their own punishment”.

The scene ends with the spirit aging as midnight draws near, showing Scrooge that life does end. The ghost opens his robe, beneath two horribly dirty children stand . The ghost tells him that they are not his but “man’s” and that “This boy is Ignorance this girl is Want”. Scrooge is told to beware of them both especially Ignorance.

Future Pace

The final ghost is the ghost of Christmas yet to come. The ghost uses a future pace to show Scrooge how his life will potentially span out if he doesn’t change. He is shown a group of wealthy men, discussing an unpopular man who has died and a pawn broker, Joe who is buying stolen property, stolen from a dead man.

Scrooge returns with the ghost to the Cratchits’ house, where the family are upset at the death of Tiny Tim. Finally he is shown to a churchyard and a gravestone with his own name and he realizes that he is the man that only brings happiness to others in death. Scrooge ask “whether what he has seen will be or what may be only.” His desired outcome has changed.

Desired Outcome

As Scrooge awakes on Christmas day, wondering how long he has been away? He realises that time has been distorted, just as when in trance. Scrooge has made a rapid change, and takes action straight away, by doing what he can to be kind to mankind, giving money to charity, buying the prise turkey for the Cratchit family and living Christmas everyday of his life – his new well formed outcome is set in positive terms, and he has the resources to achieve them. Some people laugh at him, but with his new perspective on life, he lets them laugh and is happy with his new outlook on life.

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions  and Public Speaking Events

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Hazel Gale How Chronic Fatigue Took her From British Kick Boxing Champion to Champion Hypnotherapist

Hazel Gale  How  Chronic FatigueTook her From British Kick Boxing Champion to Champion Hypnotherapist 

I have a real treat for those of you who love an epic story of struggle and success. Today I’m joined by Hazel Gale ex British Kick-Boxing champion, who became ill with ME only to fight back and use her experience and skills to support others in the sporting sector. This is  a great and inspirational story.

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CD. For people who don’t know you, can you tell our readers a little about yourself and how you coach others?

HG. I’m a Quest Trained Cognitive Hypnotherapist specialising in sports performance (although I see clients with all manner of other presenting issues as well). Before qualifying as a therapist, I coached and competed in kickboxing and boxing for the best part of a decade, so combat sports are an area I hold particularly close to my heart. I think athletes appreciate the fact that I know what it means to compete in something you’re so passionate about when they see me as clients.

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Combat sports demand an extremely high level of dedication, focus and mental strength, so as I began studying the processes of the unconscious mind I immediately recognised hypnotherapy to be something that could benefit myself and many of the athletes I trained with greatly. To this day, I still compete as an amateur boxer and I use mental training techniques in preparation for every competition I enter.

CD. What an interesting background, what made you go from being a competitive kick-boxer to being a hypnotherapist and coach?

HG. In 2009 I got very ill with chronic fatigue (or ME). I first got ill in the build up to the British kickboxing championships in February of that year. I was due to defend my current title in full contact, and as usual, I was piling the pressure on. Training wasn’t going well. I was struggling to make the weight and I had twisted my ankle. None of that was particularly new but something else was beginning to bother me – I felt tired and weak during sessions and thoroughly sick afterwards. It seemed as though every time I stood up I’d feel faint, and I couldn’t sleep for more than an hour or so before being woken up by my racing heart as if from a nightmare (although I was aware of no such stimulus). In the end, I failed to make the weight and so entered the category above mine, but I performed terribly and lost my first fight.

After the championships I continued to feel ill. It seemed to be some kind of a virus at first. I was tested for glandular fever, then anaemia and hypothyroidism (amongst other things) but nothing came back positive and I was showing little sign of improvement. The cruellest thing about ME, in my opinion, is that you’ll oscillate between feeling paralysed by fatigue and then having a few tantalisingly good days or sometimes weeks. These good spells would fill me with hope before the fatigue would return without the slightest bit of notice to crush me and my optimism once again.

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I carried on for years in that state. I never managed to get above thirty or forty percent of the fitness to which I was accustomed, but fighting had become such an integral part of my identity that stopping to get better was out of the question. I’d continually risk putting myself out of action for two weeks just to train in one more squad session, and I’d turn up to big tournaments knowing that after one minute of the first round I’d be dragging my feet and gasping for air. That’s not ideal when someone is trying to knock you out

Over the years I’d tried Western medicine, Eastern medicine, and all number of alternative medicines. I’d tried becoming a vegetarian, a vegan, I cut out caffeine, alcohol, sugar… Along the way I went to see a hypnotherapist who sparked an interest in me that would turn out to be life defining. I began  researching it just for personal gain. Then, somewhat impulsively, at 3am one morning I signed up for a course to qualify as a clinical hypnotherapist. Since then I’ve also completed courses in sport psychology and cognitive hypnotherapy and I’ve now been practicing for around three years. That early morning whim was probably one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

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CD. Such a powerful story and an inspiration to other people who suffer from ME. It’s very easy to let having an illness stop you from actively chasing your dreams and goals. I love how you still compete at the top level and how you are using your own experiences with a therapist to help others in the sporting industry. As a hypnotherapist what is the main benefit from a session of cognitive hypnotherapy?

HG. That’s an incredibly tough question to answer because everyone is different. That’s actually one of the most important premises of Cognitive Hypnotherapy that makes the way we practice differ from some of the more traditional styles. Even if I specialised in something like arachnophobia and only saw people with a fear of spiders, still every session would be different because everyone will have acquired their phobia from a different place, and would do their fear in a different way. I chose the processes and techniques for each client depending on what comes up in the session and what I think will work best for them, and any suggestion work is only ever created to fit the client’s idiosyncratic perception of the world (so no scripts basically).

Having said that, in a much broader sense, what I believe to be the most valuable thing that people take away from this style of therapy is an increased self-awareness: an understanding of why their mind would create these problems in the first place; and (crucially) an increased feeling of power over behaviours or responses that once felt beyond their control.

I think that element takes people by surprise quite often. People tend to expect hypnotherapy to be a case of coming in, lying down and being put under some kind of spell for an hour before they leave (fixed). In reality, that’s a long way from the truth but what is really achievable is far more empowering and valuable should they allow themselves to fully participate in the process of gaining this level of understanding.

CD. I agree, often peoples perception of hypnotherapy is wrong and as you said self awareness for me is a big part of the therapy session. Does sports coaching differ from general coaching? Do you always have to meet clients face to face?  

HG. I’ve actually just made a series of 6 videos for a website aimed at professional and amateur squash players explaining some techniques they can use. The techniques I do with a client in session would tend to be a little more complex; working with regression and other reframe techniques to address limiting beliefs etc. Basically a sports session usually isn’t really any different to a regular therapy session.

For someone potentially looking for a therapist, what questions should they ask before booking a session? 

HG. Working with the right therapist is crucial. The relationship that forms (even over a period of just a few sessions) can be integral to the process of change. I’d suggest that anyone looking for a therapist research them thoroughly first. A recommendation from a friend is great, but if they don’t personally click with the practitioner then he/she’s probably not the one for them.

I offer a lot of information on my website for this reason. I won’t be right for everyone and I wouldn’t want my site to be a catch-all client gathering machine that sends anyone who stumbles across it into my office. It’s much better that I let them know as much about me and my approach as I can in order for them to be able to make an informed decision.

CD. Its really important for the client to trust their therapist and I agree clients should research, and even telephone the hypnotherapist to ask them questions to ensure the match is right. And how do your friends react when they find out your a hypnotherapist? 

HG. Ha. I get a lot of jokes about swinging pocket watches and looking into people’s eyes… You get used to that though. Actually, I think that it’s a brilliant time to be involved in this field. It’s still relatively new and exciting to most people. However, in the main we’re much more ready to accept this type of thing these days. Ten years ago, if you’d told me you were a hypnotherapist I probably would have laughed you out of the room. I remember an ex-boyfriend once hiding a self-help book from me because he knew how disdainful my reaction would be  if I caught him reading it (I feel pretty bad about that now). So things are changing… for the better, and it’s great to be at the forefront of that change.

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CD. You have had a fascinating journey from athlete to coach, what goals have you set for yourself? Did you achieve them?

HG. Goal setting is obviously something I work with often in my clients’ sessions. Personally, it’s become second nature to think carefully about my aims and the route I need to take to achieve them. When something important is on the horizon I’ll use all the goal setting and future programming techniques that I’d teach to my clients and, if I’m honest, I genuinely can’t think of a goal I’ve failed to achieve in the last few years.

My most recent achievement was adding a second National ABA Boxing Title to my résumé. It wasn’t easy. Just making weight was an enormous struggle, not to mention overcoming various injuries and then, of course, performing in the fight itself. However, there was never a point at which I let self-doubt obscure the clear image I had in my head of me with my hand raised, and I can certainly thank the work I’ve done with my therapist for that.

This is the article Hazel wrote about the limiting beliefs (and resulting illness)and what  she overcame in therapy to free herself up to achieve what she has to date in her sports career: http://www.hazelgale.co.uk/blog/2013/09/inside-a-boxers-mind-from-me-to-the-medal-podium/ 

CD. You have come so far in such a short period if time, where do you see yourself in the next 3-4 years?

HG. One of my lifelong goals is to write a book (or two). I’d like to get that underway in the next few years. I’m still considering the topic at the moment but I think there’s a big gap in the market for a good sports hypnosis book for fighters so that’s my initial idea.

CD. Yes there are plenty of books on the general subject of coaching, but there are few in that niche. Plus I think the readers would love to hear your story in detail. Hazel is has been fantastic to meet you, I love your story and how you have built on your own success. I would like to end by wishing you the best of luck in the future with your business and…book? 

 If you are a coach and would like to be interviewed as part of this series please contact me at chrisdelaney7@gmail.com 

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions  and Public Speaking Events

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