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3 Ways to Tell if Your Friend is Lying

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3 Ways to Tell if Your Friend is Lying

 

How do you know if your friend is being honest and truthful?

 

We the truth is you can never know is a friend is being deceitful or not! Anyone can tell anything in a sincer way and, well, without any proof you have to take them at there word…or do you?

 

Here are 3 easy ways to who is being honest with you and who is lying through their back teeth

 

 

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Find the Liar #1

 

Lying is an art form, as we naturally don’t want to lie.

 

An untrained liar will give away their lie, subconsciously, in the words and sentences they use to state the lie.

 

People well either have  a planned lie or will lie when put on the spot. The lie is spotted by the way the liar speaks.

 

When put on the spot, the liar will often use the exact words the accuser used. This is because its takes too long to think of a good answer, and they know, if they don’t answer quickly they will look suspicious.

 

An example would be; accuser – “did you steal my book?”

Liars – “no, I didn’t steal your book” Whereas an innocent would often reply with “book, what book?” or “whats been stolen?” as they will be confused by the question

 

Some liars will have a prepared answer, especially if they know they will be accused. Liars will often answer in a linear fashion, sticking only to the facts in chronological order. Humans just don’t speak this way, which is why you can tell that a person is lying.  Truthful people will often tell a story and as the story is progressing will naturally go off on a tangent or skip between time frames

 

 

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Find the Liar #2

 

Find avoidance technique, find a liar

 

There are 3 ways hear a liar. The first is with silence. Liars have to think of their lie. When ask a question we often respond quickly, whereas a liar will have to think of a lie and check that it fits in with reality (to ensure they are not found out) this process takes a long time, creating an unnatural silence

 

Because we don’t want to lie, we will instead avoid the question. When you ask a liar a question “did you steal my book?” the liar will answer a different question “I prefer films instead of books”

 

Another example of listening to a liar is the words the liar uses. People will unconsciously use distancing language as this creates an internal feeling of disassociation

 

 

Bill Clinton famously saying “I did not have sex with that women” rather than saying her name, he distanced himself using the word “that” to avoid thinking about the person/situation.

 

 

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Find the Liar #3

 

People speak with their body

 

If people speak with their body language then they must give telltale signs of deceit away with their posture and gestures

 

You can spot a liar by watching how they react. Here are a couple of visual cues to look at out for

 

  1.  Liars will subconsciously limit their arm movements looking more stiff then natural
  2. When lying we unconsciously try and stop the lie from coming out by covering our mouths with a finger
  3. When accused of lying we feel physically attacked. A liar will often feel uncomfortable lying to your face and will subconsciously turn their body away from yours  or step backwards, as they have a string desire to get away

 

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Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques” and his latest book “Evolve the Mind – the 7 rules to mind evolution” 

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Can You Read Deceit In Others?

Can You Read Deceit in Others?

 

This month on TribLive.com they discuss the world of body language, eye accessing cues and signs of deceit

 

 

We all have an interest, at some level in human psychology and many of us, if we could would choose mind reading as our superpower. Being able to read a persons body language, tonality and eye accessing cues can be enough to mind read the individual, well at least know if they are lying to you.

 

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The What does your body language reveal about you article on tribLive.com explains how communication is not all verbal, with over 60-70% of communication being non verbal. The limbic brain is responsible for producing body language communication, as this is an automatic unconscious reaction we all use each and every day. When we are emotional, our body will leak emotional evidence that is picked up, often unconsciously by others. Emotional leakage can be positive as an example flirting or negative, as an example being deceitful.

 

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The article gives example of leakage “Touching your face while speaking – rubbing your nose, eyes, ears, head or neck – shows doubt in what you’re saying or hearing” The key to detecting deceit is not by “knowing” what a certain posture means, as they all have several meanings. A man with folded hands could be “guarded” or simply just cold. You need to know the persons baseline, how they act in everyday situations and watch for changes in their baseline with tone, body language, gestures and words. One change alone isn’t enough to know that someone is being deceitful, you need to find clusters and be able to notice changes in their baseline.

 

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The article goes on to discuss The NLP eye accessing cues from Richard Bandler and John Grinder the co-founders of NLP. They found that people look in different directions when recalling or creating information. The author makes the mistake of saying “Generally speaking, you could say “right is recalled” and “left is lying.” Looking to your left is not a sign of lying, it is a sign that the person is constructing something, this isn’t necessary a lie.

To learn more about reading body language read the full article here: What does your body language reveal about you?

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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