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NLP Meta Model

NLP Meta Model

 

We all have our own map of the world. This map is made with lost information as people distort, delete and generalise information.

 

The meta model is tool for practitioners to help a client to recover lost information which reconfigures their map.

 

 

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Generalisations

Universal Qualifiersused when people feel stuck. They imply there is no exception to their experience. Listen for “always, never, every, all, everyone, no-one, everything, nothing”

Client statement – “I’m always depressed Always?”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • Even in the shower?
  • You laughed earlier today, you didn’t seem depressed then.

Client statement – “Everyone hates me?”

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • Everyone?
  • What about your new wife?

 

Model Operators something is require or not required to happen Listen for “can, can’t, possible, impossible, should, shouldn’t, will, won’t, may, may not”

Client Statement – “I cant get started in the morning”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  •  So, your trying to say that you have never be able to get started in the morning?
  • What would happen if you did get started?
  • What prevents you from getting started?

 

 

 

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Deletions

Simple Deletionsinformation is left out

Client statement “The other one is better”

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • Better than what?

Client statement “I have learnt a lot”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • What specifically have you learnt?

 

Unspecified Verbs (the doing part of the sentence) the lack of information allows others to fill the gap (mind reading) Ask who/how/what specifically

Client statement “I can deal with it.”  

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • How specifically?

Client statement “My friend hurt me”  

  • How did your friend hurt you?

 

Nominalizations turned a process into a verb Ask yourself – can I put in a box

Client statement “There is no respect here.”  

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • Who is not respecting whom?

Client statement “My relationship is in trouble”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • How is the way you are relating causing you trouble?

 

 

 

 

 

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Distortions

 

Cause — Effect A caused B Listen for “if, then, makes, drive, compels

Client statement “My family makes me mad.”

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • How do they make you mad?

Client statement “Her refusal to listen really makes me sad.” 

  • How does her refusal make you sad?

Client statement “I feel bad for making her cry.” 

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • What did you do that you believed made her cry?

Complex Equivalence A means B Listen for “means, therefore, implies, must

Client statement “His e-mail was brief he must be angry”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • How does a short e-mail mean that he is angry?

Client statement “The way he looks at me means he mistrust me”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • Does he ever look like that when he is trusting?

Mind Reading claiming to know what the other person thinks

Client statement “I know what makes him happy.”

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  •  How do you know…?

Client statement “He should know better.”

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • How should he know not to do that?

Client statement “I’m sorry to keep annoying you.” 

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • How do you know that you are annoying me?

Lost Performative a value judgment is made without stating who has made the judgment

Client statement “It’s right that people should know.”  

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • For whom is it true that people…?

Client statement “Failure is a necessary part of the system.” 

Practitioners meta model questions: 

  • Necessary for whom? Who says it is?

Client statement “That is a stupid thing to say.”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • That is stupid according to whom?

Client statement “Oh, it is not important anyway.”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • It is not important to whom?

Client statement “It is not good to be strict.”

Practitioners meta model questions:

  • Not good for whom?

 

 

 

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DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

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NLP Perceptual Positions

NLP Perceptual Positions

 

Clients will often get stuck because they see a situation from only one perspective – their own map of the world. The NLP perceptual position exercise allows the clients to view the same situation from a different perspective, which increases their learning, helping them to make a choice about how they want to approach the same situation on the future.

 

 

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Think about a recent event that you feel could have gone better, an event that you wish you could have communicated differently or an event that left you feeling confused on how you can improve the situation.

 

Consider the event from your own perspective

Return to this event fully in your mind and run mental movie of this situation as it occurred on the day. Re-experience this situation as fully as possible, (becoming totally associated with the emotions you had at the time of the interview) from your own eyes. What can you see? Notice the other people you are talking to, hear what they said to you. See the expression on their face, notice their body language. Become aware of how you feel. Speak to the person (out loud or in your head) and use the same language as you originally did. Really relive this experience as you did at the time of the event. At the end of this episode, rewind this movie and pause the movie at the beginning of this conflict situation.

Break your State by shaking your arms and legs!

 

 

 

 

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The Second Position

 

Now that your movie is ‘paused’ at the beginning, look over at the person talking to you. Notice how they are breathing, notice their posture, facial expressions, the way they move. Now consider what their tone of voice is like, do they speak fast or slow, loud or quiet? How to they walk, talk, sit, laugh and relax? What are some of the things you know about this persons; what are their likes and dislikes?

Now imagine floating out of your own body and into the body of the other person. Imagine you are inside their skin. Become aware of how this person experiences life. Take on their posture, gestures and their tone of voice.

Set aside your own beliefs and values and replay the event from their chair and viewpoint. Pay attention to the thoughts of this person, their self talk and to any insights that surface as you observe the you, in front of you.

Use this persons language to describe what you experience (refer to yourself as you) ask the

you the same questions asked at the time, look at how they respond and how they communicate to you, what have you learnt from this viewpoint, what else can you learn from this experience of the event, how did (you) come across?

After the scene ends float back into your own body taking with you this new learning and insights.


Break state again by shaking or taking 3 deep breaths.

 

 

 

 

 

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The Observer

Return to the event and from your own point of view, before you play out the event for a third time, float out of your body and move to a detached place, where you can observe both you and the other person. Once again re-play the situation as if you were watching and listening to a film or live show. Be curious about what unfolds before you and notice the learning you gain from this third perspective. Listen to the conversation and notice the body language of both people and how you both respond to each others communications.

After the scene ends, float back into your body bringing with you all the insights and learning from the three perceptual positions. Pay attention to the difference in your experience. Take all the time you need to fully return to yourself before opening your eyes.


Repeat this as many times as you feel is necessary and always end in the first position of you.

 

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

 

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NLP Practice Group Manchester

NLP Practice Group Manchester

 

Manchester NLP Practice Group. We meet on the Third Tuesday of each month – check dates below

 

The group is open to all from Master Practitioners to Anyone Interested in Learning NLP Techniques

 

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Working with Coaching Support Service, we have decided to deliver several one off NLP Practice Group Sessions in Manchester City Center.

 

NLP Practice Group Session Dates:

Tuesday 15th December 2015, 6.30 – 8pm 10 Places Available **this month we are in room BS 3.13

Tuesday 17th November 2015, 6.30 – 8pm  **this month we are in room BS 3.18

Tuesday 20th October 2015, 6.30 – 8pm Fully Booked **this month we are in room BS 3.19

Tuesday 21st July 2015 6:30 – 8:00 Fully Booked **This month we are in room SB 3.06

Tuesday 16th June 2015 6:30 – 8:00 Fully Booked **This month we are in room BS3.05

Tuesday 19th May 2015 6:30 – 8:00 3 Places Left **This month we are in room SB2.01

Tuesday 21st April 2015 6:30 – 8:00 4 Places Left

Tuesday 17th March 2015 6:30 – 8:00 Fully Booked

Tuesday 17th Feb 2015 6:30 – 8:00 SEE BELOW FOR NEW ROOM NUMBER

Tuesday 9th Dec 2014 6:30 – 8:00 – e-mail me for a 30% discount this month only 

Tuesday 18th Nov 2014 6:30 – 8:00 FULLY BOOKED

Tuesday 21st October 6:30-8:00 FULLY BOOKED

 Tuesday 23rd September 6:30 -8:00 FULLY BOOKED

 

At each session we will practice just one NLP technique. We will provide a demonstration of the technique before splitting off in two’s and three’s to practice on one another. This is the place to stretch yourself, make mistakes, to test boundaries and to become an expert in NLP.

 

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Over the course of the NLP practice groups we will cover a range of NLP techniques from the Milton Model to the Meta Model, from The Fast Phobia Cure to the SWISH Pattern and everything in between.

 

Who Can Attend?

 

Anyone looking to improve their NLP skills can attend, from Master Practitioners to people simply interested in learning more about NLP.

 

 

The cost of attendance is £10.00 to book your place click the link below

 

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There will also be opportunities to network and meet like-minded people

 

 

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Business School,  Manchester Metropolitan University

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques”

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

 

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Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching in Didsbury is easily located for people living in and around Stockport, Manchester, Tameside, Chorlton and Didsbury, as we are just off the M60

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