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What You Can Learn From a Rock Climbing Trip

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What You Can Learn From a Rock Climbing Trip

 

 

I’m currently sat in a villa in Spain on a rock climbing trip

 

The trip was planned to spend a week rock climbing. As well as enjoying the climbing, I have learnt some valuable lessons, lessons that will help you be more successful in life.

 

 

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Rock Climbing Trip Lesson 1

 

When you focus your attention on one particular task all the other stresses of life disappear

 

When you are stressed in life, no matter what you do in your spare time; bowling, watching TV, drinking with friends, your thoughts always return to the thing you are stressing about (during the previous week)

 

By focusing on an activity that needs your full attention, in this example rock climbing, you cant think about anything else. When rock climbing, your focus is so intent on the task in hand, that you can’t let your mind wander. This mindfulness way, focusing on one particular task, changes your stress levels.

 

Find a task that needs your full attention; painting, extreme activities , dancing, cooking, any task that needs attention and complete this on a weekly basis. This complete focus on a task reduces stress and teaches you how to take control.

 

 

 

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Rock Climbing Trip Lesson 2

 

 

 

Beauty is all around us

 

As a rock climber I love two things; the extreme sport and the environment in which I climb. Most of the rock climbing in Europe is in the countryside.

 

There is so much beauty in nature. When in nature you automatically feel the sensation of relaxation.  There is something magically about being in nature, for those of you who spend time in the outdoors you will understand, intuitively, what I mean

 

If you don’t spend much time in the country side; spend a weekend away in nature, completing outdoor activities. This could be a rock climb or a country walk, it doesn’t matter what it is, but you will find a new sensation to being at one in nature

 

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Rock Climbing Trip Lesson 3

 

Creating and achieving new challenges

 

When rock climbing, you will find that can keep challenging yourself.

 

The first challenge is completing your first climb. From this you have a deep desire to climb a graded route, from this you want to increase the level of climb. Before long you challenge goes from a ‘top rope’ climb to a lead climb.

 

This  constant rising of challenges is the same goal setting process you naturally do in life. People often believe that to be successful you need to set and achieve one challenge. In reality, success comes from continuing to push yourself, creating momentum and setting new goals and new challenges

 

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3 Ways to Use Outdoor Activities to Create Mindfulness

3 Ways to Use Outdoor Activities to Create Mindfulness 

Mindfulness is a practice which involves concentrating on the here and now. The reason that mindfulness is so popular is due to the ease implementing mindfulness techniques, and of course, the positive outcome. 

 

Here are 3 mindfulness techniques that you can implement every day.

 

 

 

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Does Rock Climbing Creates Peace of Mind?

 

Mindfulness has been proven to reduce stress because you learn how focus your mind on the here and now.

 

A group of friends and myself go rock climbing on a regular basis. One of my friends, when rock climbing, was able to really push himself climbing really tricky climbs. I asked what made him such a good climber. He explained; his work was very demanding and stressful.

 

Most day’s after work, he would go home and stress about the days problems. But when rock climbing his focus was on the here and now, the climb itself. If he didn’t focus on the climb he would fall off, the by focusing on the here and now the stress disappeared.

 

What you focus on you feel. Mindfulness teaches to focus on one thing, such as your breathing, if you focus only on your breath, you create a sense of peace inside of you.

 

 

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Create New Perspective From a Hike

 

 

When hiking in the hills and mountains, you will often climb to a peak and marvel in the wonderful and beautiful views of nature. This alone can be stress reducing

 

But you don’t have to climb to a height  to see wonderful images of nature.

 

Look closure. When hiking you will walk past flowers, trees and wild shrubs. Hidden in these will be numerous insects, bugs , birds and mammals. Instead of ignoring these, sit down and look with a new perspective. Get close and up front, by looking more closely you will see things that you cant see from walking past. This new insight, new perspective will create a fondness of the same flowers.

 

 

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Sense Nature

In a town, when the rain starts we simply run inside.

 

When out in nature completing any outdoor activity you are often caught in nature. Rather then run, embrace. Lift you head and feel the rain on your face. Feel the wind blowing through your hair. Sit down a smell all the beautiful frequencies of nature.

 

By embracing your senses, you become aware of whats happening around you, enjoying life and what the world has to offer.

 

 

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Why You Need To Know About The Fast and Slow Brain

The Fast and Slow Brain – How Does It Effect You?

 

Simply put, the brain is split into two main sections – the fast and slow brain. They both work independently and together (as well as working with other sections off the brain)

 

The fast brain is great for helping you survive but it also gets you into trouble. This part of your brain is where you make generalisations, distortions and deletions. The fast brain holds your phobias, and answers questions such as 2×2 without you having to work out the sum consciously, the fast brain is where habits are formed and the fast brain allows you to respond without having to think, its works automatically. The fast brain allows you to drive down long roads without thinking, the fast brain will end sentences or song lyrics “Rudolf the red noise….” how many of you sang “reindeer” without thinking? and the fast brain operates with no effort.

 

The slow brain, is what we would describe as our conscious brain. The slow brain isn’t slow in terms of speed it is rather more of an attentive brain. The slow brain is activated when asked complex sums 34×13? The slow brain will search for an answer to a question “what did you eat for tea 3 days ago?” Rather then automatically responding the slow brain will analyse information and data. When giving a friend a new phone number the slow brain is activated, the slow brain is working when you are learning a new skill or habit. Try walking along a thin white line without losing your balance, this can only be achieved with the slow brain in operation (unless you have taught yourself to do this without thinking, then the fast brain takes over)

 

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Two Brains Working As One

 

The two brains work together. Initially in many situations, your fast brain will respond first before your slow brain monitors and controls the actions of the fast brain. If your walking down a dark ally and you hear a disturbance behind you, the fast brain will operate instinctively getting you prepared to Fight or Flight (or freeze) then the sound of a cat can be heard, and the slow brain tells the fast brain that there is no danger, apart from that off a hungry cat.

 

Read these two words BEER and VOMIT. How do you feel? You have probably experienced your fast brain in action. While reading these words the fast brain found an association between the two words and found an emotional frame of reference, which activated in most people a memory of being sick after a drunken night out.

 

This happens with phobics. The arachnophobia sees something moving in the corner of the kitchen, the fast brain looks for a frame of reference by searching “kitchen, dark corners, moving” and remembers the scary spider that recently ran under the fridge  and creates the same emotional response. With some phobics, this feeling of anxiety when repeated enough in the same environment can create a new phobia of the kitchen or fridge through association.

 

The moving thing in the dark corner of the kitchen can be distorted by the fast brain so you see the “thing” as a spider, reinforcing the anxiety to increase the power of your fight or flight response. If a door opens and the draft blows the thing into the middle of the kitchen, your two brains will recognise, in this case that the thing was just some hair or fluff, allowing your anxiety to replaced with another emotion, maybe humour or relief?

 

The slow brain works when you have to do something that does not come natural to you. If you worked in a room with red chairs, red desk and red walls and then  one day you walk in and without you knowing someone had replaced the red table with a blue table your slow brain will recognise this as being out of the ordinary and will search for a frame of reference. The slow brain can question (but doesn’t always) the actions in your map of the world.

 

You will have noticed that when you are focusing on a task (this is when the slow brain is in action) such as counting that amount of times a group of teenagers wearing white t-shirts passes a ball between one another (You can try this here by clicking play on the youtube video below) you can become blind to other stimulus

As the video explained while concentrating on one task using your slow brain, you can become blind to other stimuluses’ such as a man dressed as a gorilla waving to you.  The fast brain is constantly on, searching for frames of references to help you respond without having to access the slow brain which takes up your energy. If the fast brain runs into any difficulties the slow brain comes to its aid searching at a more conscious level for data and information to solve the problem, this slow brain demands your energy and attention.

 

If asked “what is your name?” the answer is on the tip of your tongue without you having to think, if the question is “what was your neighbors name from the first house you lived in?” for many we will have to search using the slow brain for the answer, unless you are still friendly with this past neighbor.

 

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A Change In Your Map of the World

 

We all operate from our own map of the world. Our personal maps are created through our personal experiences, beliefs, values and states. When your map is strong, such as the routine drive to work you can operate this map with your fast brain; you don’t really have to think how to get to work you just simply arrive with no conscious awareness.

 

If however you have to take a diversion or you drive pass a car accident, the slow brain comes into play because your fast brain doesn’t recognise this pattern as part of your everyday map. You become surprised and more conscious aware that something different is happening, your slow brain is checking for details so you have a frame of reference on how you should re-act.

 

The slow brain is also programmed to with your behavioral monitoring. Have you ever found that when you are angry with one person, you will still, even though emotionally you are in anger mode, act pleasantly to a second person coming into the room. The fast brain may take over at this stage, your initial reaction may be rude to the oblivious stranger, instantly your slow brain reprimands you and creates a feeling of guilt so you feel obliged to apologies.

 

The Fast Brain Goes On

 

The fast brain is always in operation making assumptions sometimes correct and other times wrongly. When working well you will go through your day like a well run machine, re-acting to the general stimulus that you are programmed to respond to. When something out the norm happens the slow brain kicks in, analysing the situation until it finds a frame of reference /or answer to the problem to operate from.

 

When working with clients to help change their phobic reaction to a stimulus or to help increase confidence in certain situations we will use both the slow and fast brain. The slow brain can help challenge the generalisation, patterns and beliefs that the client has incorporated into their map. When a well framed question is asked the slow brain will find an answer or frame of reference that interrupts the pattern that the fast brain has created, and starts the process of a new positive pattern to be formed.

 

Hypnotherapy encourages the fast brain to create automatic associations to a stimulus such as calmness to a observed spider, or the feeling of confidence when public speaking. These two process together create a strong force that can create fast therapy helping clients achieve their goals and desired outcomes.

 

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Manchester Phobias Understanding the Fear

Manchester Phobias Understanding the Fear

 

 

Do you have a fear or phobia that is limiting your life? Is your phobia affecting your career, social life and limiting what you can do?

 

What is a phobia and how common are they? It is easy to feel alone when your friends and family laugh at your fear. But for the Manchester phobic your FEAR is real and limiting.

 

You are not alone, as thousands of others also have the same phobia as you! 19.2 million Americans alone have phobias just like you, with many phobics becoming phobic through observational leaning – seeing your parent act irrational towards the stimulus.

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Phobias Can Be Overcome 

 

Many phobics believe that their phobia is here to stay, that they will have to put up with their phobia for the rest of their lives and that their phobia will be past down to their kids and that there is nothing they can do about it.

 

In truth a phobia is a learnt process that can be unlearned. There are many techniques and therapist that you can choose to use to become phobic free.

 

 

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Phobic Memories

 

We remember the details of an event or memory as well as the emotional response, and these two factors; details and emotions are stored in different parts of our brain and contribute to irrational phobias.

When you become fearful of your stimulus, this emotional memory is stored and re-played when you sleep and next time you see the stimulus.

 

Because you know how to feel, your brain see’s the stimulus remembers that you felt scared last time and uses this memory to teach you how to act now – scared! This memory due to repetition becomes stronger and stronger until even the thought of the stimulus makes you terrified.

This fear can be passed onto other stimulus’s. As an example the arachnophobic see’s the spider in a supermarket, becomes really scared and runs away.   Next time they visit the supermarket the brain remembers “supermarket – fear” and replays this emotional memory, until you become phobic of the supermarket.

 

 

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The phobic cycle can easily be broken and hypnotherapy can support you with this. The mind creates stronger memories when it is relaxed and not focusing on contradictions in patterns, hypnosis can create this state which allows the hypnotherapist to change your emotional response  to the stimulus.

 

For many phobics overcoming a life long fear can take less then 90 minutes. You can also teach yourself to overcome fears by looking at the stimulus and taking deep breaths to help you relax. You can then imagine floating out of your body and watching yourself from a detached viewpoint. You can then imagine yourself in the future feeling calm and confident when you are with the stimulus, seeing this from the point of view as the future you.

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Google Brain Therapy

Google Brain Therapy

 

Have you ever explained a situation to a friend or colleague and they got the wrong end of the stick? How many times have you been in a situation when you felt anxious but your friend feels completely at ease? Did you ever get invited to a party or an event and when you arrived, your expectations were dashed?

Why is it that others see the world differently to the way you see the world? How does an activity that we predicted to be good or bad end up being the opposite of what we thought? What is happening in our mind? Does Google have the answer?

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We have all heard that our brain remembers everything we do throughout our lives, but I can’t remember where I heard that. Most of our memories are not conscious as a smell, tone, word, image, thought or any other stimulus can bring a past memory to the forefront.

Everything we do is completed through a series of unconscious memories. These memories become unconscious actions which allow us to make quicker decisions, allowing our conscious mind to focus on other activities.

This is one reason why, when you get dressed in the morning you tend to put on the same item of clothing first, each day. When you attend a weeks training course, you tend to sit in the same seat after each break. When you meet a friend you can fall into the trap of asking the same routine questions you always ask “how’s work?”  Our mind creates these processes so we can get on with other stuff, we don’t have to consciously re-make simple decisions because they become automatic procedures.

The neurons in our mind fire each time we do or think about doing a task, helping to make the process of doing a task simple and quicker.

 

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The Google Brain

 

The brain is like a Google search engine (but recalls information in a completely different way to Google) instead of inserting a question or query, our brain uses our 5 senses to ask “how should I respond” the brain will then search for an answer or response, the same as Google finds websites to answer your query.

Instead of finding websites our brain finds memories and memories have an emotional attachment, this emotional attachment helps us to decide how to respond to the current situation.  When I attended a party last I felt nervous, so I will feel nervous now, as this situation is very similar. This is why we all see the world differently, depending on your emotional response and your past experiences, your perception of the world changes.

Google is becoming clever and now finds personal websites depending on your previous searches and time spent on various websites. This way two people searching the same query on Google will be given different results. Your brain is similar to Google; it finds personal emotional memories to answer the unconscious questions “how should I react to this situation?” Depending on your own experiences depends on your search results.

As we go through the world we collect new information and evidence to back up or change our memories, creating strong beliefs, changing our perspective and behaviour. Just as Google finds new websites, blogs, videos, news articles and social media sites to answer your search query.

 

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Google finds thousands of results to our query in seconds, but our brain works a lot faster than Google. We are constantly searching for new results (emotional memories) so we can act automatically to new situations. We respond to the party we have been invited to, as we walk through the door of the party venue, we respond to the people we see, the music we hear and we respond to each individual who approaches us to welcome us in. We are constantly searching for results from our Google Brain to help us respond to situations – this is why we a driven by our emotions.

We remember the details of an event or memory as well as the emotional response, and these two factors; details and emotions are stored in different parts of our brain. Our brain, to help us react quickly will guess at current situations by relating this situation with a past memory. The famous metaphor of this is when an ex-service person hears a car back firing and re-lives the emotional experience of being at war.

In each situation we use our Google Brain to search for past experiences and emotions to create generalised emotional responses; last time I met Dave I felt awkward, here he comes, I’m feeling awkward.  When I went to Spain last year I had so much fun, when asked if you want to go to Spain, your Google Brain searches “Spain”, search result “fun” – You remember that Fun emotion.

 

 

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Emotional Google, Influences Emotional Results

 

Google will allow you to block certain websites or certain types of websites, affecting the search results you are given. Our emotional state works in the same way. If you feel angry, depressed, joy or any other strong emotion your Google Brain uses your current emotional state as a “block” affecting the search result your unconscious pulls to the forefront.

As with Google Search Engine, you can delete the block on your Google Brain. This is best done by remembering an event with an opposite emotional attachment; if you feel angry remember a time you felt calm. This works because our mind can only recall one emotion at a time – you can’t feel love and hate at the same time, one has to come before the other.

Whichever emotion you currently feel will be used to filter your Google Brain results.

 

The Best Google Results

 

Google uses thousands of processes to help you get the best results for your query. This includes checking your past searches, time spent on websites and Google will downgrade any websites that used cheats to help them rank high “Black Hat SEO.” Google checks the popularity of websites, the links one websites receives from others and a range of algorithms to help you, the user, find the best website to answer your query.

Some of us are using an updated Google Brain to help us access the best state to help us respond positively to situations, to allow us to control our emotions, to create new responses to old situations, to overcome phobias and negative experiences, to help us achieve goals and to allow us when needed to access our peak performance and best state.

Others on the other hand are still operating on an old version of Google Brain. They access the same emotional response that is no longer useful, they use automatic processes that are outdated, they have emotional barriers that stop them moving forward and they can’t access useful emotions in situations where they want to be in control.

If Google constantly pulled up useless search results to your queries, you stop using it, wouldn’t you?

To get the best Google Brain results, we need to take a leaf out of Google Search Engine; we need to block websites that don’t offer us our desired answer (we need to block emotions and responses that are no longer needed) and find the best results that give the knowledge and outcome we desire.

 

Changing Google Results

 

To change our Google Brain results is easier then most people think. We respond to what we think about, just as Google will only give you results relative to your search query. If you think about a happy experience you will feel happy, if you remember the last time you were excited you will feel excitement, if you think about a time you laughed out loud, you will start to laugh.

When you require a new resource for a situation, you can think about the state you desire and you will feel this state. And just as Google will use the websites you visited to help give you individualised search results, your Google Brain will associate this new positive feeling to the situation and the more you associate the two, feeling good + situation the stronger the association will become until your Google Brain makes the positive emotion the number one search on your query “situation”

Many techniques help with this from altering perceptions, reframing, questioning the response, changing submodalities and simple mediation. But as with Google the more you use the website (the more you use the positive state) the higher up in the search page your positive emotion will be.

 

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The Neuroscience of Phobias

The Neuroscience of Phobias

 

Millions of humans suffer from fears, phobias and anxiety. These fears can be highly limiting and often a phobic will create new phobias on top of their original phobia; their fear of talking to strangers evolves into a fear of stepping out of the house.

A large amount of new research is in the study behind the reason of phobias, anxieties and fears and what happens in the brain when someone feels fear. Psychologists are asking key questions; Is a phobia a learnt behaviour? Are phobias passed down in our DNA from phobic relatives? Are phobias a natural defensive system that all humans possess?

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Recent research highlights the possibility that we may be biologically prepared to be phobic of certain things, but we need to learn the phobic response through observational learning.  This means children who have a phobic parent are more likely to become phobic themselves if the phobia is one that we are biologically prepared to fear.

Today we look at how a phobia or fear becomes stronger and how we can break that cycle to become phobic free.

 

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The Mind of a Phobic

 

The brain in very complex. We will use a very basic explanation of brain to explain how a phobic can become phobic free.

There are 3 key parts to the brain; The Reptilian Brain – this controls our breathing, hart rate, our fight or flight controller and all the basics we need to live. The Limbic Brain which holds the Amygdala – this is our emotional response system and deals with our fear emotions, memories, and arousal. The Neocortex– this is our perspective, our consciousness, this is where we develop language and use our imagination. We can use this part of the brain to question the initial responses from the amygdala which gives us self control.

Dave was walking his dog in a park late one evening, it was the same park he had read about in his local paper. The paper had described how two people had recently been mugged, with one being severely beaten. As he was walking along the path, he felt the presence of someone running towards him. He immediately felt threaten as his Amygdala sent an automatic emotional warning response to his body. Unconsciously the mind took in millions of pieces of information through his various senses, and his Neocortex brain fed back to the Amygdala that there was no threat, reducing Daves anxiety. The runner ran passed Dave giving him a small friendly wave.

 

The Brains Phobic Cycle

 

The two parts of the brain, the limbic system and the neocortex work collectively with phobias, fears and anxieties. The spider phobic (arachnophobia) will see a spider, the amygdale in the limbic brain sends an emotional fear response to the body, the neocortex brain backs up the fear with evidence the spider is walking towards us, this increases the fear response in the amygdale, creating a cycle until you, in most cases run away.

This system becomes automatic. The more you think about the spider, the fear and the running away (the running away leads to a positive emotional feeling once you realise you are safe) the more embedded this process becomes. The process becomes embedded because the brains connections can grow and become stronger, so fear becomes an unconscious and automatic response to the stimulus, in this case the spider.

The neocortex creates pathways (or short cuts) in the mind by firing electrical signals, this allows us to respond quicker next time we are faced with a similar situation. You start to run before you consciously see the spider. In many instances this can be life saving, for you none arachnophobics replace spider with a lion or man with gun. The amygdala is the key element in associated learning, as it gives an emotional response to a stimulus which could be visual, auditory, smell, taste or touch.

 

Primary Emotions

 

Our primary emotions are Anger, Fear, Pleasure, Sadness and Disgust. These emotions are designed to help us survive and were highly useful to our primeval ancestors. Our brain can remember emotional significant events, a once dog phobic can learn to have an automatic pleasure response to a dog though repetitive positive experiences.

This proves that people can overcome phobias, learn how to focus on the positives of a common situation rather than the negatives and learn how to become stress free in what were past stressful situations.

Survival is the reason why we make rapid responses to a certain stimulus. If we place a poisonous food in our mouth we will feel disgust and spit out the poison. Next time we forage for food and came across the same plant our brain will send us an automatic signal – disgust, which stops us from putting the food anywhere near our mouths. We don’t even have to think about the situation “was this the plant that made me sick?” this automatic response is so rapid, that we don’t even question it.

But sometimes we build up responses that were once useful to us or responses learnt from others (seeing someone else’s disgust expression on their face when with a certain stimulus can be enough to make us feel disgust when we face the same stimulus a couple of days later) that are not useful or no longer useful. In these situations we need to change the pathways and our responses to give us a new option.

 

 

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Pattern Interrupts

 

To overcome your fears, anxieties and phobias you need to break the pattern. Once the pattern is broken you can observe yourself and the situation from a new perspective which creates change, creating a new pathway or automatic response. This new response once repeated both consciously through visualisations (hypnosis works well for this) will become your automatic response.

 

Neuroplasticity is the term for a change in neural pathways and synapses (the connections in your brain) which are changed due to changes in behaviour, as the brain continually adjusts due to new experiences and memories.

 

You can break patterns through simple task such as taking deep breaths, laughing, taking on a new perspective, changing the submodalities in your mind and through expressing your feelings in words.

 

Once you change the neuropathways you can create a new positive response. The once arachnophobic can feel calmness when they see a spider.

These 5 steps will help you create personal changes.

 

1. Pick an automatic response you want to change; reaction to spiders.

2. Think about this situation – this may play out like a movie in your mind

3. Interrupt the pattern;

  • Take 10 deep breaths which will help you relax and feel emotionally different
  • If the image is a movie, pause the movie, change the coloured image to black and white and move the stilled image away from you
  • Force yourself to laugh while remembering this event
  • Observe yourself in the situation and question your reactions, the cause of your response and become aware of the differences you feel at an emotional level when you take a different perspective
  • Reframe the event by checking different perspectives. With spider phobic’s, they tell me “I’m scared of spiders” I ask “even spiders that are in a different house? Even teeny tiny spiders? Even carton spiders?” by changing the generalisation of the situation you change how your mind responds to the stimulus
  • Visualise yourself in the future feeling cool, calm and confident in the situation. Make this movie big, bright and loud – imagine it as if you are really there, feeling great

4. Repeat this often, as repetition is the key to learning a new skill. In hypnosis the change is quick as your mind creates memories faster when you mind wonders.

5. In real life if you find yourself falling into a negative routine, use one of the suggestions from step 3.

 

 

For some people the changes will be made rapidly for others it may take a little longer. As you start to think differently about a situation seeing a spider, you start to change the neuroplasticity creating new pathways in your mind, creating a new emotional response.

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

 

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Mindfulness, NLP and Hypnosis Does It All Go Together?

Mindfulness, NLP and Hypnosis Does It All Go Together?

 

Mindfulness is becoming highly popular in the world of self development especially in areas of mental illness.  Mindfulness is a type of meditation that allows the client to focus on the hear and now.

 

The secret to the popularity  of mindfulness is the accessibility of the techniques – they are very simple to use and once learnt clients can practice the techniques alone, rather then always requiring the support of a therapist.

 

Mindfulness uses a mixture of techniques, such as “deep breathing” taking long deep breaths, visualising the breath travelling down your body to access a deep state of relaxation.  “Muscle tensioning” tensing and releasing muscles to relax the body. And “observing your thoughts” from a dissociated point of view you can visualise your thoughts to create a new perspective and a new emotional attachment.

 

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As an NLP Hypnotherapist these techniques sound very familiar. A very popular hypnotic induction is asking the client to take several deep breaths to help them relax, before asking them to close their eyes. This is followed by asking the relaxed client to tense, hold and release the muscles in various parts of their body; face, neck, shoulders, arms, chest, stomach and legs, taking them into a deeper relaxed state.

 

A big part of NLP is using disassociation to change your perception of events.  There are various techniques in NLP that changes your map of the world by looking at situations differently. Perceptual positions is a technique that allows you to see the same event from your point of view (associated) from the other persons point of view and from an observers point of view (disassociated)

 

The fast phobia technique uses a double disassociation (you observe yourself, watching a movie of you during the phobic event before the movie is played in reverse) to help clients change their emotional response to their phobia. It is a refocus of attention that changes your emotional response.

 

 

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NLP and Hypnosis is often goal and outcome ordinated; clients come for a particular reason, problem or barrier. Mindfulness or self hypnosis can be useful for clients who have overcome their original issue that they sought out an NLP hypnotist for, as the client can use relaxation techniques and visualised observations to distress and refocus their attention.

 

Mindfulness, NLP and Hypnosis is a range of techniques and tools to help re-wire the brain, changing the neuron connections in our mind. Neurons produce electrical impulses and it is these electrical impulses that send messages around the brain, creating our automatic reactions and responses to events and situations.

 

The brain continues to learn and develop throughout our whole lives. Everything we take in from our senses is stored first in the short term memory section of our mind, before being installed in our long term memory, becoming an automatic response.

 

Old responses and behaviours can be replaced by new ones because the mind through plasticity continues to learn. Research has found that when people are in a relaxed meditational state, where they can let their thoughts wonder, can result in the mind producing stronger memories. Which is how hypnosis produces lasting results.

 

Mindfulness helps you to direct your awareness to your own thoughts. This way you receive more information and a new understanding and insights. This real-time focus on your thoughts can create new neuron connections as you become emotionally attached to this new perceptive.

 

It’s the same with hypnosis. If you have a phobia of spiders a hypnotherapist may first create a powerful state of relaxation within you that you can then take with you  in your minds eye to a place with a spider. As your mind doesn’t know what is real and made up (this is the reason dreams have strong emotional responses) it learns to associate this new feeling of calmness with the image of a spider, creating a new response.

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

 

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