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10 Simple Ways to Overcome Your Phobia

10 Simple Ways to Overcome Your Phobia

 

 

Phobias limit your life.

 

People wrongly believe a phobia is for life. But the opposite is true, as a phobia can be overcome easily. Here are 10 simple ways to over the phobia that is limiting your life

 

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When a phobic thinks of the stimulus that creates their fear, their phobic reaction, the phobic will see the stimulus as a movie in their minds eye. This image is powerful because the phobic see’s the image from their own eyes. This associated perspective tricks the mind into believing that it is seeing the stimulus for real, creating anxiety and fear.

 

By training the mind to distort this image you wil change the automated reaction to the stimulus.

 

 

Move the Movie Away – ask anyone with a real fear, how they know they have a fear? They will also say that they just know that even the thought of the fear (spiders as an example) will make them terrified. When people think about their fear they have to visualise it in their minds, the picture is often big, bright and colourful. When phobic will see the fear from their own eyes in their minds visualisation (they won’t picture themselves looking at a spider – they will see the spider from their own eyes) now here’s the good bit, get your phobic picture and move it away, so you can see yourself in the phobic situation. More the image further and further away from your mind’s eye, until it’s the size of a post card, then a stamp and then until it’s a dot on the horizon. When you do this how do you feel now? Less anxious?

 

Pause the Horror Movie – for people with real phobias there picture will be more like a movie, not only will they see the phobia from their own eyes they will actually relive the whole experience as if they are there again. In this case what you need to do, as you move the giant picture away from your minds eye, is, once the picture has been shrunk down so you can see the sides of the image (ie it’s not right in front of you) you need to bring out your magic remote control and pause the movie, with the moving image paused so anxiety will be much less.

 

Fade the Colour – with both the stilled image or movie of your phobia, most phobic’s will say they are move freighted when the image is in colour. As you are moving the image away from your minds eye, let the colour drain from the picture so the image becomes black and white. This is a very easy and effective technique to reduce your phobic response.

 

 

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Play The Benny Hill Theme Tune – keeping using the 4 techniques above over and over again, the more you use them the less intense your phobic reaction will be to the same image. On your 4th or 5th reply of this movie that you will pause, turn black and white and move away from your mind making it smaller and smaller, add the upbeat Benny hill theme tune. For me even thinking about this music makes me smile, as you play when you’re thinking about your phobia you can’t help but laugh, can you? now the brain is starting to associate laughter to your phobia rather the fear or anxiety.

 

Add Mickey Mouse to Your Movie. as you movie the image away from your mind eyes, so you can see yourself in the image, turn the people including yourself into cartoon characters, you can use Mickey mouse or just exaggerate your features so you become more of a caricature of yourself. At this point with the cartoon version of you and the Benny hill theme music, you will be laughing your cartoon socks off.

 

Rewind the Video – once you have messed around with the submodalities of your internal image, you will find it hard to remember your old phobic response, won’t you? now imagine you were in a cinema, and see on the screen in front of you the you before your old phobic response (this is a safe place before you were phobic)  step out of your body and float back to the project booth, so you can watch yourself watching a movie of you when you were phobic. Press play and watch the you watching the movie. at the end of the movie (again when you are in a safe place after the phobic incident) float backdown, pass over yourself and step into the screen so you can see the world from the eyes of the you in the movie. this time rewind the film really fast (1-5 seconds) and see the phobic incident going in reverse, hear people speak backwards and see people walk backwards – but do this very quickly. At the beginning of the movie, pause it and float back into your seat. Try and play the old movie, is it getting harder to see?

 

A Place in Nature – with the phobia nearly gone, I want you to think about somewhere relaxing like a beach or a place in nature. Imagine you are there now, see what you can see, hear what you can hear and start to relax. Start to feel so very relax; notice how relaxed you are feeling in this wonderful relaxing place. Take these feelings and walk towards a bridge, as you cross the bring these feelings of relaxation with you as you walk towards your phobia (a spider etc) notice how nice it feels to feel relaxed when you’re in this now nice and controlled situation, you might even start to feel proud of yourself as you feel relaxed in this situation.

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Negative List – write down a massive list, of everything your phobia is stopping you doing. Don’t just record the obvious (fear of flights – can’t go aboard) record how this is effecting your life, your relationship, your health, etc. Take each list item in turn and play a movie of this event how you hate being stuck in the UK when friends and family are going on holiday, how you always argue with your partner who wants a sunny summer holiday not a UK rainy weekend in Blackpool. You will only change once you are sick of feeling this way. So start your list now.

Picture you at Your Best – imagine you have gotten over your phobia, how will this change your life for the best? What will you being doing? Where are you? how do you feel? what do others say to you? What changes have you and other noticed? Really think about all the positive things that will happen, and feel that desire now to start to want to change, which means you need to start using these 10 techniques.

 

Practice, practice and practice – as with any skill you need to practice these techniques. Each night go through these steps until your phobia has vanished forever and start to enjoy your new life, enjoy how in control you feel and enjoy how much you are starting to enjoy life to its fullest.

 

 

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Hypnotherapy Manchester Alcholism

Hypnotherapy Manchester Alcoholism

Does hypnotherapy work for alcoholics? Alcohol becomes a real problem when you can no longer cope without a drink. At this stage alcoholism affects your everyday life.

An alcoholic is someone who is alcoholic dependent, they cant cope without a drink. Alcoholics are addicted to alcohol and this is where the hypnotherapist can help.

Alcohol abuse  or alcohol binge drinking causes problems in your relationships, in your career and in your everyday life activities.

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Hypnotherapy can be used in a couple of different ways to support an alcoholic. Relaxation techniques help you combat the anxiety that comes when giving up alcohol.  Timeline therapy can help you dela with the route cause of the problem, and hypnotherapy can help you change your desire, so you no longer desire alcohol, in fact you can be taught to hate the though of an alcoholic drink, while desiring something none alcoholic such as apple juice, coke or water.

 

The coaching side to hypnotherapy can teach you to re-look at your life style and to help you build new coping strategies. This mixture of hypnotherapy and coaching can give you fast results.

 

 

 

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If you are really serious about giving up alcohol then hypnotherapy can support you. The hypnotist will create individually   focused sessions that will support your individual needs.

 

You may be wondering what will happen when you are no longer a drinker – how will you act at a party? Well, nothing much will change. You will simple have a desire for a none alcoholic drink. You will no longer be interested in drinking, and the though of a drink will have no affect on you.

 

Obviously you will most likely lose weight, be more healthier and have a healthier body.   You have to ask yourself what negative affects is alcohol having on your life right now? And, would you be better off and healthier is you stopped drinking?

 

 

 

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5 Ways to Overcome Driving Phobia

5 Ways to Overcome Driving Phobia

This months guest post comes from the talented writer Sarah Brooks a Houston based freelance writer and blogger.

 

The fear of driving is not altogether uncommon, and certainly nothing to be ashamed about. There could be a number of reasons for developing this particular phobia, such as being involved in an accident, or even just viewing a horrible wreck. It could also be related to another symptom such as agoraphobia.

 

However, understanding the reason for your fear isn’t necessarily essential to overcoming your anxiety. It may help, but most phobias are based on irrational beliefs, which may be hard to dispel. There are a number of ways to confront your agitation, and get behind the wheel and on your way again.

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1. Avoid negative, simple, black-and-white thinking, like “If I drive a car, I’ll get in an accident.” It is alright to understand there is an inherent risk with driving, but don’t let it consume you. This type of thinking will simply feed your angst. Don’t fill your head with negative thoughts about driving, and what might happen while you’re behind the wheel. Instead take a more positive approach. Consider all of the benefits of driving, such as independence, and the ability to get to far away destinations without a lot of hassle. Drive sensibly, and recognize your limits. Don’t push yourself too far, too fast.

 

2. Take it one step at a time. Don’t just get in the car and drive. First, just sit in the driver’s seat and start the engine, and just leave the engine running. Get a feel for what it’s like to be in the “captain’s chair” of such a powerful machine, and keep reminding yourself you are in control. Next, just move slowly back and forth in the driveway or a vacant parking lot. Don’t even worry about using the gas pedal; let the idling motor do the work. Get used to controlling the car while it’s in motion. Then try slowly going around a quiet, familiar neighborhood. Just take a few laps around a block where you feel comfortable and aren’t likely to run into much (if any) traffic. From there, choose a destination only a short distance from where you start. Then keep going further, gradually expanding your limits. Avoid busy motorways and especially freeways until you feel comfortable. Above all, don’t rush – take it at your own pace.

 

3. Practice relaxation techniques, both in and outside the car. Getting enough rest, eating well and practicing meditation are all good ways to help relieve stress in any form. When you are in the car, a little deep breathing before you get started can help. Practicing a mantra, such as “The car is just a tool, a friend, and I’m in control and a good driver” (or whatever works for you). Listen to music if it helps you relax, or make sure the radio is off if it adds to your tension.

 

 

 

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4. Make use of positive thinking. Congratulate yourself on the things you are doing right – driving carefully, adhering to the speed limit (both min and max), being alert and aware of your surroundings. Plan out your journey and know the route beforehand. Convince yourself it’s not the end of the world to miss a turn, and doesn’t warrant sudden erratic lane changes. You can always turn around at a safe location, if needed. Accept that moving to the slow lane is fine. Driving fast isn’t a must, especially if you’ve planned well and given yourself plenty of time to reach your destination. Properly maintain your vehicle to ensure it’s safe. Check the lights, turn signals, mirrors, seat belts, and get regular tune-ups. Before beginning your journey, make sure you are comfortable in your seat and positioned to reach the steering wheel, pedals, and other features without issues.

 

5. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, both for your driving and your phobia. If your fear of driving is overwhelming you, or especially if it is coupled with other causes for anxiety, seek advice from a medical professional. Trained counselors can help you rationalize your fears and put them in their proper perspective. If you have friends or family to help you with your driving, take advantage of that resource. You may also consider enrolling in driving school or defensive driving classes to make you more comfortable with your skills, which will naturally ease your concerns about being behind the wheel.

 

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This is a guest post by Sarah Brooks from Freepeoplesearch.org. She is a Houston based freelance writer and blogger. Questions and comments can be sent to brooks.sarah23 @ gmail.com.

 

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Kent Student With Chronic Cheese (Turophobia) Phobia

Kent Student With Chronic Cheese (Turophobia) Phobia

 

As with most phobias, they are to the non phobic, irrational. A 22 year Kent student has had a lifetime phobia of cheese – Turophobia. Becoming a turophobic at the age 4 could be one of the reasons why her phobic is so strong now, Melissa North can no longer walk past the deli counter without breaking out in cold sweats.

 

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Growing up, her schools friends finding she was turophobic, decided to test her claims of being a phobic by throwing large amounts of cream cheese in her face. “I went to the toilets but was in too much of a state to clean it off. I was panicking and crying and I could just feel this horrible sticky cheese all over my face.”

 

Melissa phobia is getting out of control, these days she can’t walk past a deli counter, she has to switch the channel on the TV remote when a cheese advert is shown and when her boyfriend chases her around the flat holding a block cheese“I just have to lock myself in the bathroom until he gets bored. He is supportive of me but it’s hard to explain how much I hate it.”
 

 

 

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The article talks about using coping strategies to overcome the phobia. But you don’t have to. Hypnotherapy and NLP can delete the phobia, remove the fear and leave you anxious free.

 

Most phobics wrongly believe they have to put up with their phobia for the rest of their life. But that just isn’t true. Phobias can be gone within a couple of hours of hypnotherapy.

 

Read the full story here: She must Brie terrified: Student reveals chronic cheese phobia so bad she cries when she passes supermarket counter

 

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Poll Reveals The UKs Top Phobias Do Manchester Residents Have The Same Phobias?

Poll Reveals The UKs Top Phobias Do Manchester Residents Have The Same Phobias?

 

A recent survey on yougov.com reveals the UKs top 13 top phobias. As a hypnotherapist specialising in phobia removal I’m not surprised by the top 4 phobias, as most of my phobic clients come to me with one of these four fears.

 

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The top four phobias in the UK are 1. Heights 2. Public Speaking 3 Snakes. 4. Spiders. In Manchester (from my own experience) Spider and Public Speaking are two of the most common phobias.

The 2014 survey breakdowns the UK phobias into Sex and Age. Women are more afraid of heights then men, and women more afraid of small spaces, spiders, snakes, flying and darkness. According to this pole, women on average are more phobic then their male counterparts. But when it comes to needles men are more likely to run away.

Surprisingly, mainly because I have cured many clients of costume phobias, clowns phobic’s are low on the list of the UKs top phobias.

 

 

 

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When it comes to spiders, one of the most common phobias in the UK, a third of men and about half of women possess this phobia, and what is surprising the gap varies depending on age. 18 to 24 year olds are twice as likely to be afraid of spiders then the 60+ category

This is a great piece of research. To read the full article click here: UK Phobia Survey Results

 

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Manchester Bar Supervisor Plagued By Wet Food Phobia

Manchester Bar Supervisor Plagued By Wet Food Phobia 

 

This week the Mancunian Matters.co.uk  share a Lee Sentino’s tragic story – a life time battling a fear of ‘wet’ foods and sauces.   

 

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Lee Sentino suffers from a rare phobia of wet food, that is limiting his social life “It was difficult to go to restaurants as most, if not all, of the menus wouldn’t be suited to my needs. I remember the time I went to an Italian restaurant and just asked for a bowl of pasta….When I close my eyes, I still see the woman’s look of confusion and disgust.”  

 

Lee who has never seeked professional help for his strange phobia, has put strategies in place to help him live his life as best he can. The 24-year-old told MM: “I would eat like everyone else however I just can’t – it simply has to be dry. For example there would be no condiments, sauces, or gravy. If my family were having lasagne, I would have a separate meal.”  

 

As with many phobics, the phobic believes best way to be phobic free is to avoid your phobia. This creates strategies for the phobics to help them live their life as best they can. The problem with many phobias, including arachnophobia and Lees wet food phobia, its hard to avoid the thing your fearful off.

 

You also have to look at how you would live your life if you were phobic free? Does this wet food phobia stop you celebrating friends birthdays in restaurant? Is it awkward on a first date if she suggest a meal for two? Lee was quoted saying “I never seen any counsellors about the issue because I presumed it would be fine to live like this forever.”

 

For some phobics you can live with your phobia, without it affecting your everyday life. But if you have a phobia and it is limiting your life, you need to ask would I better off, using therapy to become phobic free?

 

As with all phobias, they grow until they are out of control which is why it is better to get rid of your phobia once and for all, as soon as possible. “When presented with something I didn’t want to eat it I would gag and feel as if my body would reject it if I were to consume whatever it was,” “I’ve had a fair number of comments about it from people over the years and this only served to heighten my anxiety about it.”  

 

 

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Top Ten Unusual Phobias A Manchester A Hypnotherapist Cure

Top Ten Unusual Phobias A Manchester a Hypnotherapist Cures 

This week the evening times.co.uk share with us The Top Ten Unusual Phobias. We ask “do Manchester residents suffer from these same phobias?”

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1 Haphephobia: A  fear of being touched. Associated with the protection of an individual’s personal space. This phobia is more common then people may think. Manchester residents with a history of abuse can often suffer from this phobia and can affect peoples self esteem, relationships and confidence. 

2 Doraphobia: The dread of touching the skin or fur of an animal. Humans have always had fears of animals, some say this is an inbuilt survival mechanism.  The texture of the animals skin (or even just the thought of it) can send shivers down your spine, at the extreme some phobics visualise the animal coming back to life and attacking them. 

3 Eremophobia: Morbid fear of being alone. A symptom of depression and manifests itself after trauma or the loss of a loved one.

4 Ergophobia: A fear of or aversion to work. Sufferers become irrationally anxious about the workplace. Self esteem and self worth are often key factors here. Some workers believe that they don’t deserve the career that they are in, and that they have “got away with faking it” until now, they also dread the thought that they will “get caught out soon” 

5 Hypnophobia: A morbid fear of sleep. It may result from control loss, repeating nightmares, or a feeling that more can be achieved instead of sleeping. Opposite to this, is people who want to sleep but cant – Anxiety often keeps suffers awake. people can be come anxious about a new date, giving a presentation, public speaking or a job interview. Often sufferers will reply internal films, where they see themselves fail over and over again. 

6 Brontophobia: An abnormal fear of thunder. Outside they suffer major anxiety. When you hear thunder for the first time, when your not expecting it, can make you heart beat faster. The memory from this, can create a strong fear phobia, where the thought of bad weather can cause high anxiety. 

7 Kakorrhaphiophobia: An abnormal fear of failure. The fear can consume a person’s every thought. Most people fear failure. This is often through the way children are taught at school or they way parents teach children the rules of life. Failure is a learning opportunity, but Kakorrhaphiophobics will often not try anything new due to anxiety this thought brings. 

8 Ophidiophobia: A morbid fear of snakes. This is often the most common phobia in towns across the UK. In Manchester Ophidiophobia affects one third of residents.

9 Taphephobia: Fear of being buried alive. More specifically the fear of being put in a grave while alive. Nightmares are made of Taphephobia; being trapped, not being able to breath and no chance of rescue can pile up the fear. 

10 Phobophobia: A fear of acquiring a phobia. Patients develop anxiety and panic attacks in the belief they are about to be diagnosed with a specific phobia. Humans try and label everything. if you have some anxiety symptoms when you do X, you can easy label it as a certain phobia. The problem here is people don’t want to become phobic, and the thought of having a phobia can become your phobia! 

Read the full article here: 10 Unusual Phobias 

 

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