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Functional Addiction: Living a Lie

One of the typical characteristics of addiction is an inability to lead a ‘normal’ life. When one is under the throes of drugs or alcohol, it can be difficult to hold down a job or a relationship, let alone have a decent social life. Sometimes, however, it is possible to ‘have it all’ – at least as far as appearances are concerned. Functional addicts seem to do well at work, have partners and be ‘the life of the party’ – until the cracks start appearing in the perfect picture they have painted.

Statistics indicate that functional alcoholism is much more rampant than we realise. Findings include:

Around 19.5% of alcoholics are classified as the ‘functional’ sub-type.
Around 8 % of full-time and 10.2% of part-time workers use illicit drugs.
Workplace drug testing has shown that post-accident drug tests are four times more likely to find narcotics than pre-employment drug tests.

Functional addiction can be spotted in many ways. Those affected can change their behavior when drinking, become defensive when the subject of their habit is raised, make excuse for increased use (‘Part of my job is entertaining clients’ etc.), spend considerable time with drinkers or drug users, finish others’ drinks and hide their use of drugs and alcohol.

Because functional addicts can keep their addiction a secret for a long time, it can be harder on them to seek help than those who are open about their problem. Often, they only seek assistance when ‘real problems’ ensue, including the breakup of relationships, job loss, withdrawal symptoms, blackouts, memory loss, legal issues, etc.

Signs of functional addiction include:

Deception: Family or friends may complain about discrepancies in an addict’s excuses or fabricated stories.

‘Passes’ for Bad Behavior: Family, friends or employees may have to constantly accommodate an addict’s bad behavior, tardiness, inconsistent promises, etc.

Enabling: Sometimes, loved ones enable addiction by purchasing alcohol or drugs for someone else, or not speaking up when they notice abuse.

Seeking Real Success

Often, the biggest stumbling block for a functional addict, is their fear of losing the prestige and power they have, should they admit they have a problem – many dread seeking help from specialists. Yet the trappings of success are empty when one is struggling against the serious internal conflict caused by alcohol or drugs. Real success means being brave enough to pursue lasting change, even when we have to remove the beautiful mask we have donned for so long.

Author Bio

Laura Fallon works as a writer now. Prior to this, she’d worked in a very pressured job in the city. It was during this time, she developed an addiction to painkillers in order to cope with her rising stress levels. With the help of loved ones, she was able to overcome her issues, although it has been a long road to recovery. She’s now a mom to two daughters, but works from home in order to keep her home/work life balance better. In her spare time, she volunteers with a couple of mental health charities.

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques”

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

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The History of NLP

The co-founder of NLP, Richard Bandler has become an icon in the field of self development with NLP helping become become more confident, increase self esteem and to overcome phobias, anxiety and fears.

But few people can say they are at the standards Bandler sets. Richard Bandler tells us repeatedly that he uses what the client brings to the session to support them, and cures clients of phobias, anxiety and low confidence in a very short period of time, often in front of a large audience.

So, How Does Bandler Do It?

The Bandler Technique

Step 1. Bandler says rapport isn’t always necessary, if you need rapport establish it by matching behaviour

Step 2. Use the Meta Model to chunk down the clients model and challenge limiting beliefs

Example;

RB whats the matter? Needles RB what about needles?

Example; I have always been scared of needles

RB Always?

Step 3. Listen for Sensory Based Information and pay attention for what isn’t there

Example;

RB how did you make it worse? Pictures

Step 4. Make people become sick of their problem, up the pain of the problem as the pain is a great motivator and the routine of something even something they don’t like is familiar and comforting

Step 5. Get the Client to see their problem from a new perspective, dissociation and re-framing works well here

Step 6. Find New and Appealing Options, when people have to make a choice they make the best one

Step 7. Use Milton Model Language to Induce trance, Stack Realities embedding one story into another creates confusion, using pattern interrupts breaks learnt programmes and creates confusion.

Step 8. Change Sub-modalities and change the experience, create a new way of learning. TEST the outcome

Step 9 Use Humour throughout the session, humour loosens the clients serious attitude, and decreases fear and anxiety “you cant be scared of a phobia if your laughing at it”

Step 10 Create a New Strategy, if you take something away you have to replace it with something. Test and test the new strategy

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

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Overcome Anxiety Using a 3 Step Process

Anxiety is really crippling, as you become anxious about one situation this same anxiety becomes associated to new situations, limiting your life.

The anxiety video below will explain a 3 step process for overcoming anxiety.

Overcome Anxiety – Video Tutorial

Overcome Anxiety in 3 Steps

step 1 – situation creates anxiety, as you feel anxious take 5 deep breaths as this will break the automated reaction

Step 2 – focus on your thought process and imagine moving this feeling down from your mind to yoru body as this gives you control

Step 3 – Focus on a positive emotion, as this positive feeling becomes associated to the situation, changing the frame of reference

**see video for a full explanation of this technique

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques”

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

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Hypnosis and Life Coaching for anxiety in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for alcoholism in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for confidence in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for goals in Didsbury

Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching in Didsbury is easily located for people living in and around Stockport, Manchester, Tameside, Chorlton and Didsbury, as we are just off the M60

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3 Steps To Get Anyone To Like You

Knowing how to gain instant rapport is a great skill to possess and an easy skill to learn, this transferable skilled is used in your career, relationships with family, friends and strangers.

Rapport creates trust is defined as the establishment of trust, harmony and co-operation in a relationship.

Step 1 To Create Rapport

People are drawn to and like people who seem familiar to us, who appear as we do.

To increase rapport match the other persons posture, stance and gestures creating a mirror effect. Listen to the person’s language and match their voice speed and tone – using this technique you can build rapport over the phone.

If people talk in metaphors, build on this metaphor in your response or “copy” the words someone uses when describing a situation.

Step 2 To Build Rapport

We all have a lot to say

The old saying “we have two ears and one mouth, we should listen twice as much as we talk” this is very true. People like others who make the time to listen to them (this is different from just being quite)

Start a conversation by asking a question, as the other person talks keep listening and nod throughout the conversation. This will increase Rapport especially when you match their body language.

Listening builds rapport, by listening instead of interrupting with your own thoughts; it shows the other person the conversation is about them not you.

Step 3 To Build Rapport

Imagine entering a room with two people stood in front of you, you are tasked to approach and talk to only one of these strangers. Each person looks similar and has a similar posture, the only difference was one was smiling – who would you prefer to talk to?

Everyone is attracted more to someone who smiles, as a smile shows warmth, confidence, happiness and acceptance. A smile creates instant likability as your “mirror-neurons” when seeing a smile creates the same emotions as you would if you were smiling yourself. This creates a positive association between you and the cheery chap in front of you.

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques”

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

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Hypnosis and Life Coaching for anxiety in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for alcoholism in Didsbury
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NLP Practice Group Manchester

Manchester NLP Practice Group. We meet on the Third Tuesday of each month – check dates below

The group is open to all from Master Practitioners to Anyone Interested in Learning NLP Techniques

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Working with Coaching Support Service, we have decided to deliver several one off NLP Practice Group Sessions in Manchester City Center.

NLP Practice Group Session Dates:

Tuesday 15^th December 2015, 6.30 – 8pm 10 Places Available **this month we are in room BS 3.13

Tuesday 17^th November 2015, 6.30 – 8pm **this month we are in room BS 3.18

Tuesday 20^th October 2015, 6.30 – 8pm Fully Booked **this month we are in room BS 3.19

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At each session we will practice just one NLP technique. We will provide a demonstration of the technique before splitting off in two’s and three’s to practice on one another. This is the place to stretch yourself, make mistakes, to test boundaries and to become an expert in NLP.

Over the course of the NLP practice groups we will cover a range of NLP techniques from the Milton Model to the Meta Model, from The Fast Phobia Cure to the SWISH Pattern and everything in between.

Who Can Attend?

Anyone looking to improve their NLP skills can attend, from Master Practitioners to people simply interested in learning more about NLP.

The cost of attendance is £10.00 to book your place click the link below

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques”

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Chris Delaney Specialise in:

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

Hypnosis and Life Coaching for smoking in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for weight loss in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for fears and phobias in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for self esteem in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for anxiety in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for alcoholism in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for confidence in Didsbury
Hypnosis and Life Coaching for goals in Didsbury

Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching in Didsbury is easily located for people living in and around Stockport, Manchester, Tameside, Chorlton and Didsbury, as we are just off the M60

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The 10 Step Bandler Model for Fast Therapy

The co-founder of NLP, Richard Bandler has become an icon in the field of self development with NLP reaching from the sales room to phobia removal sessions. Millions of practitioners have studied NLP, gaining NLP qualifications and mastering the various powerful NLP techniques on offer.

So, How Does Bandler Do It?

Dr Richards Bandlers technique is complex, as can be seen on the thousands of youtube videos showing you the Bandler Model. I have researched hundreds of videos to look at the common techniques he uses with clients. This is a working progress the more I research Bandler the more I understand how complex his simple looking method is. The model below is just a sample of what Bandler does.