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3 Ways to Destroy Your Stress

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3 Ways to Destroy Your Stress

 

 

 

Stress is a killer

 

When stressed you physically, mentally and biologically change. Stressed creates procrastination, depression and worry. The glass is always half empty when stressed, you are more likely to miss opportunities,  make mistakes and choose the wrong option.

 

Basically the less stress the better. Stress is good for identifying when you need a new approach. At this stage you need to know the 3 ways to destroy your stress

 

 

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Destroy Your Stress #1

 

 

Stop!

 

When stressed you overthink the same worry, this overthinking creates stress.

 

When you notice that your stress level is increasing, stop, take a deep breath. this simple act breaks the pattern of stress. By breaking the pattern, you can choose your next action.

 

When you overthink your conscious mind in turn on, not only that, the conscious mind is in overdrive. To destroy the stress you need a technique that quietens down the voice in your head. By meditating or using self hypnosis, you take yourself into a dreamlike state, this is your subconscious mind taking control, allowing your subconscious to turn off and sleep.

 

It is this relaxed state that will evolve your mind, breaking the association between a stimulus and stress.

 

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Destroy Your Stress #2

 

 

This one is so simple I don’t know why everyone doesn’t do it?

 

Your body feeds your mind. If your body is healthy, nourished and kept fed regularly with vegetables, fruit, water….the things you all know is good for you, then your mind will in-turn be well fed

 

 

A healthy body equals a healthy mind. To destroy stress you need an intake of H20, Vitim B and C, feed the body, feed the mind. When you feel alive you are in more control of your thoughts, motivation and stress levels

 

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Destroy Your Stress #3

 

 

Increase resilience

 

Whatever your goal or objective is, when working towards it, you will at some point make mistakes, get wrong or fall behind.

 

It is easy to get stressed at this point. Sometimes the stress will rise and fall within minutes. This happens when you fight through. With resilience you can the tough get tougher, and goals get completed.

 

Sometimes though you need to be aware of the levels of stress. Is stress is increasing either meditate or increase your resilience.    To increase resilience ask yourself what 3 things do I need to do to achieve my objective?

 

Knowledge is power and power is motivation. With this knowledge, you next need to know what you are capable off. Ask yourself, what skills, qualities and experiences do I have that can help with this situation?

 

Finally, momentum increase motivation. Pick an easy step and take action straight away. While in a productive mode, you will no longer be in a stressed emotional state

 

 

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Chris Delaney is also a published author “The 73 Rules of Influencing the Interview – using Psychology, NLP and Hypnotic Persuasion Techniques” and his latest book “Evolve the Mind – the 7 rules to mind evolution” 

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3 Ways To Beat Stress And Boost Your Success

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3 Ways To Beat Stress And Boost Your Success

 

Stress is a big killer

 

We live in a world which encourages stress. More people live in debt then ever before, a recent increase pressure at work is having its toll and technologies such as IPads, mobile phones and even the TV creates introverts, not the creative side of being introvert but a lack of interaction that doesn’t release the daily stress of life

 

As this stress increases, and builds on itself , your level of stress reaches a point of no return creating procrastination, worry, de-motivation and  excessive worry

 

But you can beat stress and boost your success rate

 

 

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Step 1 Create Awareness

 

 

Stress creeps up on you

 

To beat stress you first have to notice the tell-tell signs. Having awareness creates concision control, conscious control  increases power and the feeling of power is motivational.

 

Stress, at first comes with baby steps. By noticing stress increasing you can then follow the next two steps breaking the stress cycle, increasing your success.

 

  • Feeling agitated, frustrated and moody
  • A lack of control 
  • Not being able to relax 
  • The internal feeling of worthlessness 
  • Low energy
  • Headaches, chest pain, stomach upsets and rapid heartbeat
  • Lack of sleep
  • Clenched jaw and teeth grinding 

 

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Step 2 Pick It, Do It

 

 

When feeling stress, you will still get the desire to take action (meet a friend, start a business, exercise) but rather then taking action, you over think what you want to achieve before talking yourself out of your goal

 

This cycle has an additional negative side effect. Quickly as you make the decision not to take action, so feel depressed about the lack of action (which can lead to depression in extreme cases)

 

The key to success and breaking your high levels of stress is by taking immediate action. Pick one thing you know you would enjoy doing and do it – Don’t think, don’t way up the options, instead get up, move and do it.

 

Momentum creates motivation, so get moving

 

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Step 3 Don’t Feed the Stress, Feed Your Body

 

Stress is fed by your negative perspective.

 

When you feel stressed you automatically focus on the stress of, well, everything. This is why you need step 1, you need to notice the feeling of stress and then, step 2, take action.

 

These negative thoughts are the food stuff fro your stress levels. The more you think negatively the bigger your stress becomes.

 

As well as completing step 1 and 2 you need to start feeding your body. Have you ever noticed that when you feel stressed you stop eating healthy, instead you go for take away or microwave meals? Also compare the amount of water you take when stressed an motivated.

 

To help change your mind set you need a healthy body. Plan your diet and making access to water easy. And again take action! When you get home and think should I cook the planned meal…or…

 

Instead of getting to the …or get a take away, stand up and go to the kitchen and start cooking. As we said in step 2 momentum creates motivation

 

 

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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3 Steps To Get Going With Any Task

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3 Steps To Get Going With Any Task

You have an idea, your create a plan of action then…..procrastination

 

The procrastination mountain in front of your goal feels to big to climb, small task seem like massive goals, and your goals are perceived as un-achievable.

 

There are 3 steps we all need to take when we want to create personal motivation, once followed you will find you will achieve your goals quickly

 

 

How To Get Going With Any Task Step 1

 

Motivation or procrastination is a fine line, balancing on your perception of the task. A focus on all the millions of actions you have to take, all the hard work you have to put in, all the potential problems and all the hassle you will go through creates procrastination.

 

Motivation to take action comes from a focus of the enjoyment of the task. When planning, focus on just 3 key milestones, the positive outcome  from achieving your goals, the resources you can tap into and the fun of living the journey.

 

Positive focus creates motivation

 

 

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How To Get Going With Any Task Step 2

 

Create a positive peer group

 

Many people these days own their own business, or maybe you are self studying or becoming an inspiring author. Many goals or task, in the age of the entrepreneur, are solo task. When working alone, especially at home, it is easy to become distracted, demotivated or demoralised.

 

To get yourself going create a join a positive peer group (these are easy to establish via apps such as meetup) A peer group, especially when you meet at an external venue, creates motivation.

 

With a lack of distractions; TV, Pets, Household tasks, you are more focus on the task in hand. The group setting, the environment of  people collectively working together and encouragement from your peers increases your motivation to succeed.

 

 

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How To Get Going With Any Task Step 3

 

Positive Reinforcement

 

Rarely do people praise themselves. In fact people downplay their successes, stating that it was luck, that others did the hard-work or thinking that others will find that they are faking it.

 

You need to believe in yourself. Consciously realise your strengths, skills and successes. Praise yourself for your achievements, your planning and your creativity.

 

After each success, goal and milestone reinforce this behavior by rewarding yourself. This could be a pat on the back or a nice treat. Reward will create motivation and motivation is the state that will get you going with your next goal.

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

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Didsbury Life Coaching: Conquer Depression in 5 Steps

Didsbury Life Coaching: Conquer Depression in 5 Steps

Depression becomes a negative cycle. You wake up believing you are depressed, throughout the day you unconsciously search for evidence that you are depressed. This evidence, once found reinforces your belief about being depressed, creating a self fulfilling prophecy. Your feelings of depression become stronger while unconsciously you search for new evidence.

Depressed people find it hard to achieve their goals, they believe that there not worthy of anything; securing a new job, finding a partner, even being happy. Depressed people believe that they will fail and that others have all the luck.

Depression is in the mind, if you see the negative perspective in all situations, if you believe you will always fail, if you imagine that everyone dislikes you will feel emotionally low. Constant negative emotions (the chemicals released into your body when feeling depressed) affect your body; medical conditions, bad skin and hair loss.

But when you can change your perspective, when you look on the bright side of things, when you have self respect, self confidence and self belief, when you change your negative beliefs to positive beliefs, when you set and achieve your goals, when you enjoy living your life, you will start to feel more positive. These positive emotions allow positive chemicals to be released into your system so you feel good and often more healthy.

It can often be easier then you think to change your emotional state, changing how you physically feel. These 5 life coaching activities will help you get started.

 

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1. Dress to Impress….yourself

How you look affects how you feel. Imagine looking into a mirror and looking at yourself with scruffy hair, unflattering clothes and torn trainers. Your appearance can make a big difference towards your attitude. First go through your wardrobe and through away (or better still give to charity) your old rags. Next go shopping, hire a personal shopper and restock your wardrobe, follow this by a new hair style and a pampering session. Finally with your new look and new clothes, stand in front of a mirror and notice how great you look. Take this opportunity to make an effort each day to dress to impress…yourself.

2. Change the Mind, Change the Body

 

Your mind and body work as one, sending signals to each other. A client walked in to my office the other day with her head hanging down, when asked what was wrong she said “I’m feeling down.” Body movements and facial expressions are designed to trigger emotions, as your mussels move they trigger electrons in your mind that make you feel surprised, sad, happy, scared or any of the other emotional responses that we have hardwired in our mind. This is one reason why people describe their mood through a metaphor, you may physically feel that you “have the world on my shoulders”

Depressed peoples body language will often include; slumped shoulders, lethargic movements and head lowered down – looking towards the floor.

What is interesting is if you physically stand up, hold you head up high, make eye contact with others, you will automatically feel more confident – this is instantaneous. Even more important if you force yourself to laugh for 10 minutes everyday you will start to feel happy without knowing why.

 

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3. The Devil in Your Head

Many people who are depressed are so because they give themselves negative self talk on a daily basis “you’re a failure..” “Everyone will laugh at you..” this negative voice is limiting your expectations and causes sadness or worry.

To quickly eradicate this voice imagine that you can turn the voice into a shape and then give the shape a color. Slowly at first, move the shape down your body, from your head to your shoulder, from your shoulder to your arm, down your arm and onto your palm. Imagine the shape falling from your palm onto your leg, down your leg onto your foot and watch the shape fall off your foot, most people at this stage get the urge to kick the shape away. For this technique to work you have to imagine seeing the shape move away, down your body. Once the shape has been kicked away ask yourself how do I feel about the voice now? For most the power from the voice has gone. Repeat this technique until you can no longer retrieve the voice, even if you try.

4. What I Want I Never Get It

 

You hear these statements on a regular basis “I want to be a millionaire” “I want a big house” “I want to double my salary” “I want to be happy.” It is good to set yourself goals, but you have to remember that just wanting something doesn’t mean you will achieve it. Ask any successful person and they will tell you, you will have to work hard to achieve your goal.

When working towards a goal you need a plan with several milestones. Milestones are used so you can see that you are moving forward and getting closer to the big goal. If you want to be a millionaire, the first milestone should be to plan how you will make money, your second milestone may be research business ideas/money making strategies, your third milestone as an example maybe to research how successful millionaires became successful. As you achieve your small goals your big goals will fall into place naturally, it is also good to plan for the ‘bad’ days and have a strategy to deal with these not so good days.

The importance of achieving goals is enjoying the journey. Artist have always enjoyed the creativity of drawing, even when they were penniless and it looked as if they would never been seen by the public as successful. Their passion for art kept them going and it was their skill over hundreds of hours of practice they made them successful. It’s the same with any goal, you need to enjoy what you are doing and in time you will become a success. Even entrepreneurs who started out working on market stalls enjoyed selling, profits sheets and searching for profitable products, while at the same time dreaming on multi-million pound deals secured in an expensive boardroom.

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5. Me, Me, Me and Me

 

Do you always focus on yourself? Many unhappy people go into situations looking at what they can get out of it? They rarely think about completing selfless acts, helping others for free and making a contribution to others, when there is nothing in it for them. But there missing out on the big secret, because the more you help others, contributing through volunteering, offering spare change to a stranger in the supermarket who has gone over their predicted bill and has no spare change or even the old cliché of helping some elderly stranger cross the road, the more you will feel good about yourself. Yes that’s right when you help people unselfishly you will feel good about yourself, boosting your self esteem and image, increasing positively the view you hold of yourself.

How to Feel Good About Yourself

 

There are many ways to help you feel more positive, to boost your self esteem and to give you the confidence to enjoy your life. These 5 simple techniques will help you get started, helping you to take control and to do something positive with your life.

Being able to take control gives you the power back. Rather then working on an unconscious pattern; feeling depressed, searching for evidence, feeling worse. You now have a choice. You can pick an activity to break that pattern and feel good about yourself. When completed on a regular basis you will wake up feeling good about yourself naturally, you will believe that you are a good person, and start to, unconsciously find evidence to back up this new belief.

Final Thought

 

Imagine you were this successful version of yourself who is confident and successful; where are you, what do you do, how do you act, who are your friends, where do you live, how much money do you have in the bank, are you married, a parent, a traveler, a business person? Imagine that this successful version of you, could look back and give the you now some advice, what advice would you give yourself?

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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Manchester Hypnosis for Relaxation

Manchester Hypnosis for Relaxation

I’m often surprised by the large amount of hypnotherapy and life coaching clients who don’t spend time each week to relax. They go about their busy lives, running errands, completing projects at work, bringing work task home with them, making tea for their children, worrying about tomorrows work meeting, planning the children’s weekend party, shopping for food and all the other hundred and one task that need completing each week.

I have found that most hypnotherapy clients with bad habits such as nail biting, unconscious itching and smoking follow this pattern of over working and over worrying. When we discuss their week it often becomes clear that they rarely relax.

I understand how everyone has a busy schedule but I also understand the importance of having time at least once a week to fully relax. Being able to relax allows you to change state, allows different chemicals to be released in your body by your mind. Relaxing allows your brain to re-charge so future task become easier rather then another hassle. Being able to relax can help your unconscious to sort out all the sensorial information it has took in throughout the day.

There are several techniques that will help you to relax including a powerful NLP visualisation technique that I use in hypnotherapy sessions. It is good to read through this exercise before using it on yourself.

 

 

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Give 5 Minutes

If you have kids, a wife/husband or even a dog, you know that when you arrive home they want to talk about their day, play and hug you or lick your face depending on who it is who greats you.

Your family and pets do this because they love you and want to share things with you, they don’t know if you have had a good or bad day or how stressed or relaxed you are feeling. In most cases this initial welcome will only last around 5 minutes, so prepare yourself – when you arrive home the first 5 minutes is all about your loved ones, put everything else aside and spend the whole 5 minutes focused on your family and pets.

After this initial 5 minutes of love and affection, your family will get on with their own task, the kids will play with their toys, the partner may read a book or watch TV and the dog will curl up in its basket. Now you have your time to relax or time to complete your task.

Others fall into the trap of arriving home angry knowing that they will be bothered when they have to much to do and not enough time. This bad attitude can cause arguments with loved ones or a concerned partner constantly asking if you are all right? Both of these examples waste time, putting more pressure on you increasing your anxiety. By just giving 5 minutes can be enough to show your love, allowing you to get on with your task.

 

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Hypnotic Breathing and Relaxing

Purchase some relaxation music – ocean waves, the sounds of the forest, etc (or search for free relaxation music on YouTube there is plenty available)

Second tell your loved ones that you will be down in 5 minutes and that you don’t want to be disturbed – this will soon become a daily routine that won’t be questioned by loved ones.

Find a quite room and turn off your phone, as you don’t want to be interrupted. Ideally sit in a reclining chair and take of your shoes. When ready, turn on your relaxing music.

Take several deep breaths (breath in through your nose and out through your mouth) and imagine all the muscles in your body relaxing; imagine the mussels in your forehead relaxing, the mussels in your cheeks and jaw, relaxing. Imagine all the mussels in your back and shoulders relaxing. All the mussels in your arms and legs relaxing. Relax all your mussels.

Imagine a soft gentle wave of relaxation washing over your body, notice the colour of this wave as it washes away the stress and helps you to relax a little more. Allow the relaxation wave to relax you inside and out from the top of your head to the tips of your toes, relaxing you more and more, deeper and deeper. The more you allow the wave to move around your body, the more you will relax until just the thought of the relaxation wave helps you relax more. Spend at least 5 minutes enjoying this feeling of relaxation.

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Beach Visualisation for Relaxation

 

Take several deep breaths to help you relax. As you relax, imagine you are on a beautiful and peaceful beach, notice the warm sand between your toes, the smell of the salty sea, the sound of the gentle surf drifting slowing in and out, in and out.

Rather then watch yourself on the beach, step into your body and see the beach from the eyes of the you on the beach. See what you can see, hear what you can hear. Smell the smells, taste the taste and notice the feelings of relaxation that all these senses create inside of you now.

Spend 5 minutes walking along the beech, feel the warm grains of sand between your toes, notice as they genteelly part to take the weight of your feet. Hear the crunch of the sand with each step you take and notice how the warmth of the sun helps you to feel more relaxed.

Find somewhere on the beach that looks like a nice place to rest and relax. Sit down and take the weight of your feet and notice the difference that feels from standing to sitting. As you sit there relaxing, notice how the waves genteelly move up and down the beach, wave after wave, in and out, in and out, imagine that with each wave it comes in and takes one of your worries away, in and out each wave, each time taking another worry away with it. Wave after wave, worry after worry.

The sound of these gentle waves helps you to relax more and more, so take a deep breath and breath in that sea air and notice how with each breath you feel much more calmer, much more relaxed. Feel the sea spray on your face, taste the sea air with every breath you take which makes you feel more relaxed.

This simple exercise when completed every night will help you feel more relaxed each time you use it, as you associate your beach to the feeling of relaxation. You will be amazed how completing a small relaxation visualisation exercise for 5 minutes can help you feel more calm and relaxed.

How Do You Relax?

If doesn’t matter how you relax as long as you make time to relax, relaxation, meditation and a light hypnotic trance as many benefits; more energy, better sleep, enhanced immunity, increased concentration, better problem-solving skills, less anger, crying, anxiety, frustration less headaches and pain.

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

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Hypnotherapy in Didsbury is easily located for people living in and around Stockport, Manchester, Tameside, Chorlton and Didsbury.

Manchester Life Coaching: How Micro Thoughts Form Bad Habits

How Micro Thoughts Form Bad Habits

John was running late. After making a quick breakfast, egg on toast, he quickly jumped into his car and headed down the road. after about 10 minutes a little voice in Johns head repeated “you have left the gas on….you have left the gas on.” Worry built up and soon John had spun the car around and was driving home, knowing that each minute was making him later and later. The panicked John reached home and ran straight into the kitchen only to find that he had turned the gas off before he had left for work.

 

 

We have all been in John’s shoes, but why does that internal talk happen? What is the purpose of this chartering self talk? This internal talk can be a pain, especially if you’re running late and it tells you that you have left the gas on. But the internal talk is there to keep you safe. It helps to warn you about potential danger – this doesn’t mean its always right, as in John’s case the gas was turned off.

 

 

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Forming Habits

 

 

You have a hundred billion neurons in your brain, these neurons help you to react to the world spontaneously by finding past references to the situation you currently find yourself in, so you know how to act. These quickly become habits and these habits help you to react quicker, allowing your conscious brain to focus on other stuff, rather than having to consciously think “how do I react to this situation?”

 

 

The anxiety built up in John, thinking that he left the gas on, maybe coupled, as an example with the knowledge that his girlfriend was sleeping upstairs unaware of the danger. This emotional reaction can be so powerful it becomes associated with the car and driving to work. The next morning John drives to work, he remembers the anxiety feeling, the voice returns “have you left the gas on?” John knowing its not worth the risk to carry on, turns his car around and a habit is born. After a couple of conscious “should I turn the car around” John finds that setting off in the morning to work, hearing the worried internal voice and returning home before setting off again, has become part of his morning routine, he even leaves for work a little earlier so the return home journey doesn’t make him late.

 

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Night Time Voices

 

Habit forming also happens at night. Many of us will put our mobile phone on charge in the bedroom. Modern smart phones are linked to our social media profile and our e-mails, and it this awareness that forms bad habits that can stop us sleeping.

 

Julia just returned from a successful first date, set up by her friend sara. The date had gone great, he was lovely; good looking, intelligent and a gentleman. They had exchanged phone numbers and on the train had messaged each other, asking questions they didn’t have time to ask on the date. Questions turned to flirting and flirting turned to complements and the potential for a second date to be organised. This messaging had continued as Julia arrived home, and soon after Julia had decided to go to bed. She put her phone on charge, drew the curtains and jumped into bed. She had a big meeting tomorrow and needed a good nights sleep. As she closed her eyes she kept thinking about the date and how great it was, maybe her inner voice told her “you should check your phone just incase?” Encouraged by her self talk, she got out of bed and no message. After 10 seconds of being back in bed the inner voice asked “maybe he just replied as you were getting into bed?” It took Julia 3 hours to get to sleep. The next night a tiered Julia went to bed early. The day had been amazing, the meeting had gone well and the guy she had dated had texted and had arranged a second date. They had continued to text each other through the evening. Julia had decided for an early night, as she got in her bed her inner voice suggested “you should check you messages just encase….”

 

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Mobile Phone Research

 

On a side note. A lot of research has been conducted on mobile phone being left in the bedroom and how they affect your sleep. It is now recommended that you charge your phone in a separate room. The reason behind this is that our brain is sensitive to light. The nerves in our eyes send signals to the brain, when light is detected we know when we should be waking up. The light from the mobile phone when on charge confuses our internal sleep/wake system making us believe dawn is approaching taking us out of a deep sleep.

 

Breaking Habits

 

Becoming aware of a habit forming is key to breaking the habit. Once aware you can set up a system to break the habit. John as an example could set up a checklist to ensure he has checked the gas. When the voice questions him on the journey his list will provide the evidence that the house and girlfriend are safe and he can continue on his journey. This continuation of his journey can be enough depending on how deep the habit has become, to break the habit.

 

 

Your brain is constantly learning and changing through plasticity, which is why we can form new positive habits – going to bed without checking the phone because you charged it downstairs. With a little repetition new habits that serve you well are created allowing you to focus on other elements of your life.

 

Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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NLP Hypnosis Manchester – Moving The Pictures

NLP Hypnosis Manchester – Moving The Pictures

Two clients came to see me for relationship coaching, I asked them both to think of their last holiday. The wife smiled, while the husband frowned. The same question had invoked different emotional responses.

 

Our mind often creates images out of the words we hear. These images are referenced against our emotional memories before we are automatic told how to react through an instant chemical release creating our current state. The wife remembered positive holiday memories and felt good, the husband remembered a negative memoir and felt bad.

 

To take control of yourself you can learn to change the sub modalities of these images which change the motional response. The submodalities include colour, picture size, moving or stilled image, brightness, attached or detached images, dimness, distance of image, framed or unframed image, sounds, smells and internal self-talk, plus many others.

 

 

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Changing Your Emotional Response to a Memory

 

To highlight the power of changing the submodalities of an emotional memory I would first like to you to think of a past event that made you feel anxious or nervous. This could be a first date, an interview, public speaking or anything that created a thought of dread.

 

When you remember this scary event on a scale of 1-10 how do you feel, with 1 representing completely calm and 10 representing arghhhhh I’m really anxious!

 

Think about the image; where abouts is this image in your mind? Is it in front of your head, further of in the distance, to one side, is it like looking at a photo or a giant cinema screen?

 

Wherever it is, move the image in front of you so you can see the edges of the picture and you can see all the people in the image including yourself, so rather than seeing it from your own eyes you see it from the view of an observer.

 

If the image is a moving picture, a film, I want you to pause the film so it becomes a stilled image. If the image is in colour let the colour drain from the picture so you are left with a black and white stilled photograph.

 

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Ask yourself now, while looking at this image on a scale of 1-10 how do you feel, with 1 representing completely calm and 10 representing arghhhhh I’m really anxious!

 

Next move the image further and further away towards the horizon, and the further away the image goes the smaller the picture becomes, getting smaller and smaller the future away you move it – how do you feel now?

 

Move the picture so far away that it is hard to make out the detail, it becomes fuzzy, until it shrinks and shrinks going from the size of a postcard, to a stamp and finally to a dot on the horizon – how do you feel no on a scale of 1-10? Let that dot fade away one last time.

 

Have you noticed that your negative emotions that were once strong have vanished? You can do this NLP technique with any negative memory helping you to feel how you want to feel, respond how you want to respond, act how you want to act.

 

NLP and hypnotherapy help you to have more choices and if you complete this exercise often enough or in a trance state you will find that at some point soon, you won’t even be able to recall the negative image, even if you try.

 

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

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Chris Delaney NLP Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Career Advisor is available for booking for One to One Private Sessions, Group Training Sessions and Public Speaking Events

Venues

DIDSBURY: 4 Birley Park, Didsbury, Manchester, M20 2TL

MANCHESTER: The Triangle, 37 Exchange Square, Manchester M4 3TR

E-MAIL: chrisdelaney7@gmail.com for more information

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Hypnotherapy in Didsbury is easily located for people living in and around Stockport, Manchester, Tameside, Chorlton and Didsbury.

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