NLP Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy

NLP Hypnosis Manchester – Moving The Pictures

Two clients came to see me for relationship coaching, I asked them both to think of their last holiday. The wife smiled, while the husband frowned. The same question had invoked different emotional responses.

 

Our mind often creates images out of the words we hear. These images are referenced against our emotional memories before we are automatic told how to react through an instant chemical release creating our current state. The wife remembered positive holiday memories and felt good, the husband remembered a negative memoir and felt bad.

 

To take control of yourself you can learn to change the sub modalities of these images which change the motional response. The submodalities include colour, picture size, moving or stilled image, brightness, attached or detached images, dimness, distance of image, framed or unframed image, sounds, smells and internal self-talk, plus many others.

 

 

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Changing Your Emotional Response to a Memory

 

To highlight the power of changing the submodalities of an emotional memory I would first like to you to think of a past event that made you feel anxious or nervous. This could be a first date, an interview, public speaking or anything that created a thought of dread.

 

When you remember this scary event on a scale of 1-10 how do you feel, with 1 representing completely calm and 10 representing arghhhhh I’m really anxious!

 

Think about the image; where abouts is this image in your mind? Is it in front of your head, further of in the distance, to one side, is it like looking at a photo or a giant cinema screen?

 

Wherever it is, move the image in front of you so you can see the edges of the picture and you can see all the people in the image including yourself, so rather than seeing it from your own eyes you see it from the view of an observer.

 

If the image is a moving picture, a film, I want you to pause the film so it becomes a stilled image. If the image is in colour let the colour drain from the picture so you are left with a black and white stilled photograph.

 

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Ask yourself now, while looking at this image on a scale of 1-10 how do you feel, with 1 representing completely calm and 10 representing arghhhhh I’m really anxious!

 

Next move the image further and further away towards the horizon, and the further away the image goes the smaller the picture becomes, getting smaller and smaller the future away you move it – how do you feel now?

 

Move the picture so far away that it is hard to make out the detail, it becomes fuzzy, until it shrinks and shrinks going from the size of a postcard, to a stamp and finally to a dot on the horizon – how do you feel no on a scale of 1-10? Let that dot fade away one last time.

 

Have you noticed that your negative emotions that were once strong have vanished? You can do this NLP technique with any negative memory helping you to feel how you want to feel, respond how you want to respond, act how you want to act.

 

NLP and hypnotherapy help you to have more choices and if you complete this exercise often enough or in a trance state you will find that at some point soon, you won’t even be able to recall the negative image, even if you try.

 

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Can Paul Ramsay Hypnotise You?

Paul Ramsay and Mani Scienide on a recent video explain who can be hypnotised. “People are fascinated with hypnosis, and one of the most popular questions is, “Who can be hypnotized?”  There’s a common misperception that only a select few people make good hypnotic subjects.  In this video we’ll explain the factors that affect hypnotizability, and give you some advice on how you can make yourself a better hypnotic subject.”

 

 

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Paul explains that hypnotisability is a form of suggestibility (primary suggestibility) to take in you in to a trance state. We are all suggestible; in day to day situations people unconsciously use body language, tone and gestures to make suggestions.

 

In marketing leading brands use suggestions to get you to buy their product, an example of this is Nike “Just Do It.” Suggestibility is about taking instructions without questioning them “can you pass me the salt?” This is a question, but embedded in this is the command “pass me the salt.”  Rarely to people answer the question, instead they automatically pass the salt without thinking.

 

In a therapeutic setting, the hypnotist will use light exercises to assess how well the client responds to suggestions. An example is to make a “Charles angle gun” with your hands; fingers interlocked together with two fingers pointing up. Stare between the two fingers and imagine magnets on the tips of your finger, and imagine that feeling of the magnets pulling towards each other” Most people find that their fingers grow closer together until they touch.

 

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Paul goes on to explain that Hydro hypnosis is a client and hypnotist working together to go into trance. Auto hypnosis is self hypnosis, where the client puts themselves into a trance. Auto hypnosis happens in our daily lives with many of us unaware how often we follow suggestions or fall into a light trance.

 

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This video is video 2 of a 15 part series that is being published live over the next few weeks on Google Hangouts. Paul and Mani have broken down hypnosis in to small sections so the listener can get a real insight into hypnotherapy. If you tune in to watch the videos live, Paul and Mani will also answer any viewers question live on air.

 

Well worth checking out. Video 3 is “The hypnotic experience” where Paul will explain what it is like to be hypnotised.

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 The Clients Perception, Change It.

Phobias, a lack of confidence, no self worth, anxiety, depression, alcoholism, overweight, abuse, negative self talk, limiting beliefs are some of the reasons people come for therapy.

It is often the case that clients have “put up” with their personal issue for a number of years. Their perception of their issue being one that they can “put up” with X, changes to one of “overbearing” – I need to get rid of X. It is this change in their perception that brings client to therapy.

Therapy is often seen as a last ditch effort from the client and many clients wont truly believe that therapy will help them. Many hypnotherapist will use arm elevation to change the clients perception from one of “this wont work on me” to “my arm is rising without me moving it, I must be hypnotised, if the therapist can do this to me, they will easily be able to cure me”

To produce fast therapy, we need the client to change their perceptions, just as the clients own perception of their personal issue changed from one of “annoyance” to a perception of “I can no longer deal with this.”

 

 

 

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Internal perceptions can be changed to, the overeater instead of seeing a tasty bag of chips and a delicious burger, will see greasy food, her weight increasing and a potential hart attack. The client’s frame of focus can change to; seeing the whole burger, part of the burger or the burger on a counter in a takeaway. The clients frame of focus changes their emotional response. And which part they focus on changes their motivation to, in this case the eating or not eating of the burger.

Two friends went with me last time I brought of beef burger, one focused on the grease, the fat, the cooking oil smell and the smell of burnt onions. She could see the paper napkin below the burger changing colour and texture as the grease dripping from the burger bun, soaked into the napkin. She ordered the salad. The other, a big meat eater, focused on the thick meaty burger, he could smell the tender meat, hear the sizzling in the pan, see the cheese dripping slowly of the burger, the bun and salad looked fresh, within seconds he had ordered two of them.

As the clients perception change their map of their world expands and changes to. The therapist has to take on their clients map to support them, by understanding how the client sees the world, and to communicate this back to them using “clean language” and by presenting choice.

 

 

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Second guessing the client’s thoughts can break rapport, instead the therapist needs to step into the client and see the world from their eyes, using solution focus questions to allow the client to find their own solutions and options.

Therapist can facilitate change through metaphors, reframing and offering comparisons, allowing the client to try on a new perspective. To increase motivation the therapist may ask clients to focus on the future, a future version of them when they haven’t changed, allowing the clients perception of their future self to motivate them. And then compare that, to them when they have changed, which creates or at least starts a belief that they can change, because they just visualised it.

Many clients focus on the negatives of the situation, or a past situations. By looking at the positive perception of this situation, can create an extended map, a new perception to work from. The weight loss client may complain “I’ve always eat, I’ve eaten everything that was put in front of me, I can’t stop” a therapist friend replied with “good, because I don’t want you to stop eating, I want you think about everything that was put in front of you that you ate and pick only the dishes you liked” The therapist is telling the client that she liked creates the presumption that she disliked certain foods, this is a different map to “I eat everything that is put in front of me”

 

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Clients will often generalise their life “no-one likes me” which creates a limiting map, when challenged the clients map can change “….well, obviously my mum likes me, and my friends, but my friends have all known me from being young.” Therapist “so, what you’re saying is people who get to know you like you?”

Creating an extended map, new choices and a new perception to look at old situations, can rapidly increase change in the client allowing them to move forward quicker then expected.

 

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Fast Therapy in 8 Steps

I am constantly looking for new ways to support clients to gain faster and lasting results. Neuroscience is helping therapist understand how changes are being made at the neuro level during therapeutic session  and I envisage that more research will help us achieve a goal of instant therapy.

 

Starting out as a therapist I wanted to find that one technique that would cure all my clients.  Sadly this wasn’t the case, but NLP and Hypnotherapy gave me a range of tools to support clients quickly and research into motivation allowed me to encourage clients throughout my sessions. Still I wanted to support clients in the minimum amount of sessions possible.

 

The process of Fast Therapy came from a mixture of therapeutic disciplines, allowing me to cure phobias in one session and to boost confidence instantly. Some techniques that I use in Step 6 such as the Fast Phobia Cure can work in their own right, but when practising I found that sometimes a technique alone would work for one client but not another, which is why I turned to motivational research, and found that embedding Frustration and Visualised Outcomes into the therapy session ensured change was desired.

 

This multi-therapeutic approach breaks down clients resistance, increases motivation and has a flexible approach to use the techniques best suited for each client. Techniques and metaphors are tailored per client creating a personal centred approach, while using the motivational start, state changes and the visualized outcome to create lasting change. In a way Fast therapy is a motivational sandwich where the therapist chooses the best filling appropriate to the client’s situation.

 

 

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Step 1. Frustration for Change

 

Clients often suffer with their problem for a period of time, which for some, can be years before seeking therapy. Many build up strategies and routines to deal or sometimes avoid their concerns.   In their mind their problem is an issue, but not enough of an issue to seek therapy.

 

In most clients, their perception change that takes their problem from one that they “put up” with to one that they need to desperately overcome. To create fast therapy, you can increase focus on this frustration to create a stronger desire to want to overcome it.

 

A middle aged women came in with a phobia of spiders. Even the word spider created strong anxiety. She had lived with arachnophobia for over 10 years and used her husband as a strategy for not being surprised by spiders; she would send him into any room first, before entering it herself! When asked why she had decided to overcome her phobia now, she replied “I noticed that my children are becoming phobic and it’s not fair on the kids, sometimes I won’t go over to a friend’s house because of the thought of a spider, I don’t want my kids to miss out on parties, because i’m passing my phobia onto them”

 

By creating increased frustration about their current situation, the reason they want to overcome their barrier, the client is more likely to create change; it’s the “I’ve just had enough” tactic.

 

To create change by using frustration ask questions that build on their emotional reasons for wanting change.

 

  1. “What is your reason for coming today?”
  2. “Why now?”
  3. “How does that make you feel?”
  4. “What would happen if you didn’t make this change?”
  5. “How would that make you feel?”

 

Step 2. Desiring a Better Outcome

 

Frustration alone won’t create change, the frustration create motivation for change.   To build on this motivation, client needs to see the potential positive outcome to their change. This is why an overweight person wanting to lose weight, will often say “well it’s only one bag of chips” there focus is on the tasty food not the positive outcome of not eating the chips.

 

As a client visualises in detail the positive outcome to overcoming their issue their motivation will increase. The therapist has to support the client to build a story in their mind using all of the senses, allowing clients to go inside themselves until they see the future them, from their own eyes, creating a stronger emotional response. Your goal here is to create anticipation for change, a motivation for desire to change and a positive emotional memory about the outcome of change.

 

As the therapist asked “what would be different in your life if you were more confident?” the client smiled. “I would meet attractive girls…and they’d like me.” “What would happen if you meet attractive girls, and they liked you?” Asked the therapist.  “Well.. my confidence would grow more, and I’d probably go for that promotion at work I always put off…” The therapist goes on to get more sensory details “What would you say to yourself as this was happening?” “What else can you see” “What do others say?” “How does this make you feel?”

 

The more sensory experience you create in the client, the more of a desire they will have for change. This technique isn’t done in trance, rather you sensory based questions creates an awakened trance, allowing the client to internalise this new emotional memory.

 

To build up motivation in the desired outcome ask

  • “What can you see?”
  • “What can you hear?”
  • “What do you tell yourself?”
  • “How do you feel?”
  • “On a scale of 1-10, with 1 representing you don’t want to change and 10 representing you do want to desired outcome, where are you on the scale now?”

 

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Step 3. Creating a Choice for Relaxation

 

The relaxation trance teaches clients first to relax, but more importantly it teaches how they can quickly change state. Clients in a state of relaxation are more likely to make stronger emotional memories, as part of the brain that challenges differences shuts down, allowing clients to follow your commands.

 

Clients can use this experience of relaxation; often I get the client to walk down 10 steps to a beautiful place in nature (a made up place or memory) creating a sensory based experienced allowing them to relax. I build up the feeling of relaxation, and add a post hypnotic suggestion “and whenever you want to relax again, all you need to do is imagine walking down the 10 steps until you find yourself in the beautiful place in nature and with each descending number you will feel yourself relaxing more and more..” or create a strong relaxation anchor by squeezing the clients thumb and finger tighter.

 

This part of therapy teaches clients how to change state, how to relax but also teaches clients that they now have a choice. If they want to relax, they can do so by accessing their relaxation anchor.

 

Step 4. Matching Metaphor

 

Clients often feel they’re alone, they are the only one with a particular issue, and often the limiting belief creates the feeling of “the world is on my shoulders.” At this stage of fast therapy, we break this belief through a matching metaphor, because as you break one belief it is easier to break others throughout the intervention.

 

During this stage, we use the metaphor to create an undesired outcome – what happens if you didn’t make a change? This is the opposite of the desired outcome which is perceived as pleasurable. To keep the motivational level high, we show them through a metaphor, the agony of leaving the situation as it is. As the story you are about to tell, is about someone else, the client won’t question you or create an unconscious block, but they will instead, make their own meaning out of the therapist words.

 

I had a client similar to you with a similar problem, he came to see me but had left his problem to long. When he was young he had gotten lost in the woods, he was only lost for 5 minutes, but to him it felt like a lifetime. The thought of being lost in the forest kept playing on his mind, and he soon became phobic of forest. At first he just avoided forrest, but his phobia grew and grew, and he soon become phobic of groups of trees, then individual trees. Soon he couldn’t go near shrubs, or plants, even wooden fences started to make him feel anxious…”

 

The first metaphor is designed to first allow the client to understand that many people have similar problems, some which are perceived worst or funnier then there’s. The client can understand how one problem, left, can evolve into something else or into different parts of their life and is designed to increase the motivation for change; I don’t want my issue to evolve

 

Step 5. Emotional Resource Metaphors

 

We believe that’s clients have the resources they require inside of themselves. By using related metaphors the client can find these resources and use them in new situations. When remembering a past experience, such as time when you were confident you will remember the emotional attachment to that memory and relive those emotions, as you can only feel one emotion at a time. These emotional resources can then be anchored and used in new situations. This includes a visualised event, as your mind does not know the difference between a real and visualised event, and stores them both as emotional memories, which is how we can create new resources by feeling X emotion in Y situation.

 

 

“I want you to remember being back at school, when you were learning you’re A, B and Cs, you probably believed that you will never learn all 26 letters in the right order, when you learnt your A, B and Cs. But now without thinking you can recall all of the 26 letters, and even better,  you can put these letters in different orders to create different words, and those different words put together in a different order create different sentences, all because you can learnt you’re A, B and Cs..”

 

To create an emotional resource metaphor you first need to understand what resource/state the client requires. You can then use metaphors that are understood by all; we all went to school and learnt to spell, we have all learnt to ride a bike, we have all become excited about Christmas or a birthday party, we have felt like we have been in love, we have all used our imagination to play a game, we have all felt stress then felt the release after the situation has ended.

 

Clients will also discuss part of their lives which can be used as an emotional resource metaphor. Erickson famously used the metaphor of nurturing and growing a tomato plant, to a client who was a gardener.

 

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Step 6. Quick Change Work

 

By this stage the client is often well in trance, through relaxation and metaphor techniques. Sometimes I will wake the clients between the fast therapy stages, before taking them back, often into a deeper trance state. In the change process your aim is to create new neuropathways to help the client have new ways of working.

 

Clients will often visualise negative situations that create stress, depression, loneliness. Other clients will give themselves negative self-talk or describe their situation through a metaphor “I feel like I’m stuck in a rut” The change section of fast therapy breaks these routine patterns and looks at new ways of working.

 

Depending on how the clients “does X” in their head depends on the technique you use. For example you may use a trace state to get the clients to cross an imaginary bridge with the associated feeling of relaxation, to then face their phobia, while feeling relaxed, calm and intrigued.  You may move a negative image away from their minds eye, turning it black and white until the negative emotions dwindle. Or you may turn the negative self-talk into a shape.

 

Common techniques include:

  • NLP Submodalities
  • Spinning Feelings
  • Reframing
  • Anchoring
  • Timeline Therapy
  • Exploring Metaphors
  • Laughter States
  • Anchors

 

This is always ended with a positive future pace, seeing the new you from the eyes of this new resourceful you. I often ask the client when they are seeing the world from their future resourceful self to give the them now, sat the the chair some advice – its always really powerful and positive.

 

Step 7. Closing Down All Metaphors

 

To end, we finish the stories from each metaphor, starting with the last metaphor and ending with the first metaphor, linking all parts of the therapy session. The client may have consciously forgot about the original stories they have heard, but now they will come flooding back.

 

“And you remember that every day you learnt something new at school, you took that learning at some level and your unconscious, put that learning into an automatic process, creating a new way of doing, a new choice and a new piece of knowledge. Just like if I asked you what the 4th letter of the alphabet is, because you learnt your A, B and Cs, you would know that it is D, or if I asked you what 2 x 2 is? You know without thinking that the answer is 4. You are unconsciously competent at so many things, which means you have learnt new things all your life just like you did today, just like the boy in the woods did. He first learnt to be scared of every forrest, every tree and anything made out of wood, but he also learnt that that wasn’t a good behaviour, was it? So he learnt a new way to react, he learnt to move the pictures in his head away so he would feel different, he learnt to associate the feeling of relaxation with trees and forest so he felt relaxed and calm whenever he came across one, he learnt that he had the choice and if he choose to feel relaxed everytime he seen a tree he would become unconsciously competent at feeling relaxed with every tree, shrub or forest and he did, he became so good at feeling this way…”

 

Step 8. Check for Changes

 

Once you awaken the client from trance, you want to test the therapy. Ask how they feel about X? Some will feel completely different while others will have started the process and their unconscious will continue to make the changes throughout the night.

 

At this stage, point out to the client their current changes “that’s great, because when you came in you were a 9/10 on the scale now you are only a 4/10, which means tonight when you sleep deeply your unconscious mind will take it down to a 3, then a 2 and then a 1”

 

To focus the client on change, ask:

  • “Compare how you felt when you came in to how you feel now”
  • “If you became X again, what would you do now?”
  • “What choices do you have now?”
  • “How would you relax if you needed to?”
  • “What are you on the scale now? What do you need to do to move down the scale?”
  • “Imagine walking out of this room and as you walk around the corner and you become aware of X, how do you feel?”

 

In addition if needed, I will set the “change work” I used as a homework task for the client to practice every 2nd night for 10 nights. I will e-mail the technique to them.

 

I have found that clients initial response is not always as positive as I hope (ideally I’d love clients to jump out of the chair shouting i’m cured, i’m cured) instead they are unsure, they know something is different, but what? But after a couple of nights I will telephone the client who has been cured (they don’t always know this. I rang a client 2 weeks after therapy because she had been away on holiday, when I asked how she felt around spiders, she told me “I don’t know I’ve not seen one for 2 weeks” this was a client who found spiders everywhere she went before running away screaming) or has moved forward in leaps or bounds.

 

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The Busy World

The world most people live in is busy, stressful and tiring. For many they wake up each day and make breakfast for the children, pack the children’s homework in their bags, dress them, brush their hair and take them to school. This is followed by a short ride to work where you have a 101 things to do, 3 meetings and a million questions to answer about various task throughout the day. Your return home, picking the children up on route before making tea and sitting down to fit in an urgent report that you didn’t have time to complete at work.

This happens everyday until weekend. No lie-in though, as the boys have an early start football game and the girls are due at bally for midday. You still have the shopping to buy, the house to clean and the cat to feed. Before you realise the alarm goes off and its Monday morning, time to get and feed the kids.

 

 

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A Hart Attack Waiting to Happen

 

No wonder we keep hearing about rises in stress, depression and hart attacks. Your mind and body need rest, they need a time to distress and to reorganise. A large part of this reorganisation is done unconsciously when you sleep, but for the stressed individual the lack of sleep is a common factor as they continue to worry about the forthcoming day.

The Coaching Way

 

Life coaching, hypnotherapy and other relaxation therapies can be the key to helping you to relax and destress. For some life coaching can be the doorway to realisation, seeing situations from a different perspective or a time to answer some unanswered questions.

Life coaching can support you to find the solutions to your problems, and the life coach can help you create a manageable work-life balance. For many, having time to sit down and to focus on YOU can be all the therapy you need, helping you to relax, to focus on what’s important to you and to help you set new goals and the realistic steps you will need to take.

 

 

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Deep, Deeply Relaxed

 

Others choose to relax and distress through hypnotherapy. A hypnotherapist can use a trance to help you relax and to help you destress. A hypnotherapist will teach how to focus on certain parts of your body changing your awareness. They may use detailed and sensory based visualisations to take you somewhere in your mind where you can let your worries go.

You can even learn to set up unconscious processes for deal with stress and anxiety. You can learn to take control of your emotions and to use post hypnotic suggestions to relax when you need to.

 

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It doesn’t really matter which therapy works best for you, what matters is that life can take over quickly and many people feel stressed and anxious, even depressed, often forming bad habits. Using a life coach in Didsbury, you will learn processes and coaching techniques to give you more options, teaching you new ways of dealing with old problems.

A Didsbury life coach can work with you to set and achieve goals, these can be to become a millionaire, but often peoples life coaching goals include being healthy, feeling confident, being a non-smoker and having the confidence to do X.

If you have goals that you don’t achieve, if you want to be less stressed, if you have bad habits you what to get rid off or if you need a bit of time to relax and to discuss you in a solution focus way, then a Didsbury Life Coach maybe the answer you have been looking for.

 

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Why Your World Doesn’t Make Sense to Anyone

Our senses take in information from the external world; we use smells, sounds, visuals, taste and touch (heat, human touch, a light breeze etc) to create an internal map to teach us how to react. With this logic two people standing side by side should feel the same emotions depending on the stimulus’s the senses detect, creating an automatic response.

But we are not robots and two people standing side by side will feel different emotions and react differently to any stimulus because we don’t operate from sensory experience, we operate from our internal map; The map is not the territory.

This is why one NLP technique as an example to cure a phobic, wont work on every phobic client. This is why the same hypnotic words can take one person in to a deeper trance and another into a lighter trance. This is why describing a beech can help one person feel relaxed while creating anxiety in someone different. We may sense the same external things but these stimulus are internalised differently.

“Clean language” is discussed as a key therapeutic tool by coaches. By using the clients “words” the client makes a particular response, rather then a therapist using their own language to describe a situation or to summaries a key point, which can be internalised by the client in a different way, creating a different emotional response. My brother told a joke a recent family gathering, half the family found it hilarious, while the other half found it rude.

 

 

 

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Drawing a Map

Our brain learns through observational learning, even though we are born with some inbuilt processes. Babies naturally smile, as a smile creates certain emotions in adults that make us want to protect them. When a bay cries the mother will naturally respond to that baby.

 

Albert Bandura completed a range of experiments in the 60’s which were named “Bodo Doll” Children would watch an adult act aggressively towards the Bodo Doll and see him either get rewarded or punished, once the adult left the room the scientist would watch the children’s behaviour towards the doll. This experiment highlighted how people learn through observational learning.

 

If you see X happening you will believe that this type of behaviour is acceptable

 

The environment you are born in, along with your family network, peers and people you see in authority teach us consciously and unconsciously the rules of life, creating your map. A baby who doesn’t get any attention through crying will at some point stop crying and become more withdrawn.

 

Every experience creates parts of our map. These same experiences affect how we internalised future experiences creating a different map. Two children who go for a picnic will internalise the picnic experience differently depending on past experience and how these experiences affected their map.

Your mind searches for emotional memories within milliseconds to teach you how to automatically react to each situation. For new experiences your mind looks for the most relevant point of reference; The picnic is in a field, a field is where mummy and daddy argued, arguing = sadness.

We are constantly searching for frames of reference, changing our emotional reactions. We can only feel one emotion at a time, but we can rapidly feel different emotions throughout the day.

 

 

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Editing the Map

 

Our brains can change and evolve through plasticity. This changes our internal map, helping us to respond differently to different situations; a phobic can become phobic free, an anxious person can learn to be more confident and you can respond positively to situation that in the past made you uncomfortable.

Many of us have old patterns running, outdated ways of responding. Some if these old patterns at one time or another were usual to us. They were the best choice at that time. But often we need to update our emotional memories to create new frames of references and news ways live of lives.

Clients through hypnotherapy, mindfulness and life coaching can learn new behaviours, as our brain never stops evolving. We can create new frames of reference to give the client new choices, and it is believed by most therapist that clients always make the best choice when given choices.

Life coaching uses solution focus questions to direct the clients thought, and each thought, which creates an emotional response creates a new emotional memory – a new frame of reference. NLP life coaching uses a range of tools to help clients take a new perspective on situations and give clients tools to control their emotions in situation, allowing the client to have new choices – I feel negative, but I can choose to feel different by using NLP technique X.

NLP Hypnosis can embed new processes and frames of reference, as the brain creates stronger memories when it is relaxed. These new patterns will help you create positive emotional reactions to various stimuli. There is a range of tools available to help clients edit their own map, creating new choices, new ways of operating. Meditation as an example teaches people how to relax, how to centre themselves and how to control emotions.

It often doesn’t matter which techniques work best for you, it is more important to find techniques that give you the options to make the best choice. When you want to edit your map to create new responses, you know that certain therapies can support you with this. Your brain can learn through repetition, and by changing your emotional response to a stimuli over and over again, through real life or in a trance state your brain will create new neuropathways to embed this new behaviour, changing your internal map of the world.

 

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Workplace Stress Is Increasing The Demand For Life Coaches

Over the last 10 years self-made millionaires has increased by 9.2% with the number of start up businesses rising by 34%. The internet, advances in technology and a rise in consumer demand has made it easy for the entrepreneur to become a business success.

 

Life coaching is becoming mainstream in many western countries with businesses funding coaches to increase efficiently with their employees. A recent survey found that 80% of workers feel stressed in work and nearly half of these say they need help to learn how to manage workplace stress.

 

Workplace stress is costly. In the US alone it is estimated that around $200 billion is spent on stress related workplace issues including a rise in staff absences and sick days, staff turnover, recruitment and medical insurance.

 

 

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Life coaching came to popularity to help self funding individuals reduce stress, become more confident and to achieve their goals. More coaches are moving into the business sector being hired as consultants, trainers and personal coaches. Business leaders are seeing the benefits of personal coaching from an impartial source. “Employees are more likely to open up” says Chris Delaney a confidence and career coach “to an external coach who has no obligations to the company.”

 

 

Prior to businesses sourcing life coaching sessions for employees, HR departments and line managers would use appraisal sessions to motivate staff. “Employees would be reluctant to fully open up in theses session, rarely discussing the issue of stress as they would believe that this would impact on their ability to gain a promotion or would effect redundancy processes.” explains Delaney

 

 

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There is a big demand for business and life coaches with many coaches working on a global basis through Skype and Google hangouts. A coaching business has little overheads and coaches can earn anything from $80 – $500 per session making a coaching business a potential goldmine.

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